Why my wife, who hates non-whites, is not a White Nationalist.

So last night my wife and I had a big argument and I learned a lot about her views that I hadn't been clear on before. I had always had an issue with her not being a White Nationalist. It turns out it's because she's something she understands as a "blood and soil" nationalist.
She told me that even though we're married, she'll never see me as a Southerner, and that's because her ancestors came here, wiped out whatever non-whites had to be wiped out in order to colonise the place, gave their blood in the revolutionary war, fought for Dixie in the Civil War, and were mostly of English ethnic stock. For this reason, she said, she would never be "so arrogant as to arrive at another White nation and demand to be accepted there".

I was in shock. I know our relationship has issues but I never realised how she saw me as some sort of invader.

She went on to tell me that my heritage couldn't have been less American because my recent ancestors were fighting for National Socialism under Hitler, which she said was the most un-American way of life, and talked about my parents' Euro-socialist tendencies.

She told me she would never believe in White Nationalism because even though she believed negroes were inferior and belong in Africa, she has nothing in common with Whites of other nations, especially Yankees, who she says are "empty of American values".

Then I asked her if in that case she thought our children weren't Southerners and she said they are, because of her, but not me. She said true Southerners would see me as a sympathiser and that was a step up from Yankee traitors but I'd be "that funny foreigner who stuck out like a sore thumb whenever he spoke his mouth" because of my accent.

I just couldn't believe it was coming from her. It hurts a lot to read it in this forum, but it hurts a lot more listening to it coming from her. I've lived here all my life and all my values are Southern. She thinks that Southern values have not been integrated into my DNA because I haven't had the centuries of living in the South like her family. That's ridiculous in my opinion. I openly embrace Southern values and even if I act a bit out of place, I'm an ally, not an enemy.

I'm just grateful my children don't have to put up with this xenophobic nonsense.