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2nd question: why are you a misandrist?


Because men continue to perpetrate violence against me in both a personal and systemic way that makes it difficult for me to trust men by default. Not impossible, but difficult.

I could say NotAllMen, but that doesn’t seem like it’ll affect someone like you. I sympathize if you’ve had bad experiences with men in your life, but to jump the gun all the way to misandry is not only extreme and radical, it’s a dangerous way of thinking. It’s judging the many based on the few, so your misandry is already poisoned by subjective bias.

It is self protection that harms no one. Distrusting men keeps me WAY more safe than openly trusting men does.
My distrust of men doesn’t harm them, but it keeps me safer. Yet people want to wax theoretical about it.
I know misandrists. People who have been hurt. Not once, not twice, but over a lifetime and in a manner that impacts on their ability to simply exist in their day to day lives.
Yet almost all misandrists I know have some men who are friends, they love their family and they actively support men who are victims of rape.
Trusting men, ESPECIALLY cishet white men is a painful process that often involves me having to be continually hurt in order to educate and set up my own boundaries.
Misandry isn’t jumping the gun, it’s putting your feet into the starting block and being ready for the shot you know will come.

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