It may shock you to hear that many of what you call traditionsl muslimas are actually just putting on a facade. My mom and I knew somebody from Saudi Arabia, and if you're from one of the mega rich families and put on a traditional enough face in public, you can live almost like your average American young adult. She recalled an incident where she was smoking pot and later took a taxi home, only for the driver to report that she's stoned to her parents. Instead of getting horrible death or torture, her parents handed the taxi driver a lot of cash and lectured her about how she might not be so lucky next time she gets caught.
Oh, and you can also have secret concerts and not get in trouble, so long as your house is big enough to sneak in the musicians and your house is capable of blocking sound from the inside. She recalled a personal rock concert she saw once.
Should be noted to that the moment she got to America, she ditched the traditional Saudi womens' garb and put on American business casual or a shirt and jeans. She also went to lots of parties and concerts. Oh, and she worked too. She was a good employee and people quite liked working with her. I can't remember if it was with her that her boss was rumored to be having an affair with or somebody else, and my mom never looked into it. She dreamed of permanently moving to America, but that was not to be and she was eventually forced to move back to Saudi a few years ago. We used to get occasional news from her on how her life is going a few years ago, and she last said that its alright but she doesn't know where to go next.
I do worry sometimes though. I wonder if she was really happy or just put on a face because she didn't want to leave America. I also wonder what's up with the lack of communication.
And that friends, is why you don't force any religious practices on anybody. Different people are comfortable with different practices. Some are willing become traditional muslims, but others aren't truly happy as that-- and both of those things are okay so long as both can choose how to express their faith in the way that seems most respectful and fitting for them.