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I don't know a single person involved in it whose interest and actions are not linked with their psychological history and a way to process trauma or at minimum anxiety and depression. It's a faulty way of relating to the trauma which only prolongs the issues, but its faults can be hidden by the temporary relief it can give, just like cutting or other forms of self-harm can provide temporary relief for depression or borderline while ultimately causing more hurt. BDSM is self-harm acted out with another person.

The community emphasizes consent, e.g. it's not abusive because they are consenting, but if someone's impulse is due to trauma recreation and trauma bonding, then are they truly consenting? Or are you just abusing someone who is suffering and trying to find healing while stuck in a destructive pattern due to their psychological history and distress?

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