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Formative, vital experiences I missed out on whose window of opportunity has closed forever. This vital, formative experiences have no later-life substitutes.

Ages 11 - 13

This is when vital, formative experiences begin appearing. This is the cusp of puberty, when you grow from a child into a sexual being. This is when your function of a social animal extends beyond playing games. This is when deep and meaningful social bonds begin to form, and when you experience a gradual sexual awakening. This is what I missed:

• Never had a real first date or even a "date" (school-yard mock-ups)
• Never had friends of the opposite sex who you enter puberty with and develop with
• Never went to the cinema, got food with, had a sleepover with or went to a disco/party with my mixed-sex friend group
• Never cheekily took a first drag on a cigarette with my male friends
• Never had a first mouthful of wine or spirit that was promptly spat out or reluctant swallowed
• Never hugged, held hands with or kissed a girl while these experiences are new to her, and new to you
• Never had a chance to explore the beginnings of sexuality alongside another female who is also just beginning to explore sexuality

Ages 13 - 16

This is like 11 - 13 but more intense. Most of the formative experiences during these years depends on you fulfilling most or all of the 11 - 13 experiences. This is when your sexuality develops further, when you begin to experiment with substances (especially alcohol), when you have parties and when you go through the most intense part of puberty and begin your path to adulthood.

• Never had a real first relationship and its subsequent break up
• Never been helped through a break up by a mixed-sex group of friends, or helped your male and female friends through a break up
• Being able to relate to your friends and associates about relationship woes
• Experience getting drunk for the first time with your male friends first, then your mixed-sex friends. Getting drunk with male friends is optional.
• Never had a first passionate kiss.
• Never had the first below-the-waste fumblings, when you make out in the bedroom and brush your hands over the clothes of a girl's clothes
• Never seen a girl in her underwear
• Never fingered a girl or been wanked off by a girl
• Never had sex with a girl
• Never had a blowjob from a girl
• Never cheekily tried a puff of weed with your mixed-sex friends at a party
• Never took a late-night trip somewhere with your friends and just goofed around
• Never became embroiled in a love triangle, both being wanted by two girls and falling out with a male friend over a girl
• Never been to a teen-friendly night club or bar
• Never fallen in with some slightly older friends and got up to mischief with them
• Never sexted with a girl
• Never sent nudes to a girl or received nudes back
• Never experienced the excitement, anticipation and trepidation of your first real serious date.
• Never experienced the attendant fussing over your appearance, the jovial jostling of your family and friends.
• Never got drunk with a random girl at a party and made out for ages on the sofa before we both laugh about it the next day

#Ages 16 - 18

This is when you fully emerge from puberty and become an adult.

• Never been to an adult night club or bar
• Never went through the promiscuous phase when you date, kiss and fuck many women over a short space of time when your hormones are raging
• Never been through 3+ serious relationships at this point
• Never learned how to drive so you could go on trip with your buddies
• Never went on a "lads" holiday
• Never experimented with drugs such as getting battered off weed, MDMA, coke or anything else
• Never had a high one night stand with a hot as fuck wasted girl you pick up at a club
• Never had a FWB
• Never had a "best friend" who you bond with more than other people in your mixed-sex friend group
• Never volunteered with friends
• Never had your fill of women, done pretty much everything sexually you'd want to do which lays the ground for a serious LTR at some future point
• Never had a threesome or got a woman to dress up in fancy lingerie for you

I have never had and can never have these formative experiences.

I will never escape inceldom because everybody my age has completed all of these experiences and can live a normal life. I am yet to complete any of the experiences in 11 - 13. I am stuck there. Socially, I am 11 years old. But even still, even if I did do these things now, somehow, it wouldn't be the same. I'm too old. That exquisite, intoxicating and luxurious explosion of hormones, excitement, that shared enthusiasm and sense of wonder and excitement with your male and female friends as you being indulging in the splendours that life has to offer... Those moments are forever gone. They are memories that were never made, lives never lived. They are gone forever.

Even if I do escape inceldom and somehow deceive a woman into thinking I have had a normal life, I will never be happy because it will always be on my mind that I have never done these things and she has, and I will be jealous of her and will begin to hate her for it. I already hate her for it.

I am 27 and I have done nothing. I have had no social contact with anybody for any of the time it mattered. I have had no memorable experiences. I have no funny photos, old buddies who I can open a beer with and laugh about the good old days, laugh about that time when I got really upset because my first girlfriend called it off, laugh about that time after when I got drunk and had sex with a fat warpig, or got high and pulled a model.

I have done nothing. It's too late for me. I am crying as write his. I will never know the fulfillment of being with a oneitis. I will never be able to do these things. It's too late.

Life is a living decay. I am an empty shell of a man and nothing can fill me up.

I didn't have any of these experiences because women and normies would not let me. I was not sufficiently attractive to be deemed a social creature. Instead, I was used as a tool for normies to gain social points by abusing and ridiculing. I was like an arcade machine they put abuse into and got tokens out, which they could exchange for social esteem. This is why I hate them all.

This is what I mean when I say the positive reinforcement you get just by being attractive matters.

Link to peer-reviewed, heavily referenced journal detailing how social psychology during puberty, the formative years, alters neurological morphology and chemistry:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3410522/

This is what I mean when I say attractive people live in a different universe to us, and how they can never understand us.

inb4 normies brigading this post saying "merrrr I only done 60% of those things"

Edit: shit grammar because I'm fucking upset

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