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If there were not legal repercussions, do you think that you would be intimate with a young person?

If it were legal AND socially accepted (or at least tolerated) then I might be interested in having a kind of relationship with a young girl. I imagine it would be essentially a close friendship and nothing more unless she were genuinely interested in exploring and learning about her body and sexuality, and that anything with regard to that would be done on her initiative. I would make certain she was completely comfortable and in control and that her feelings were paramount, and that she could ask me to stop at any moment and I wouldn't be disappointed or angry. I'd take any health considerations into account (hygiene, condoms etc) and wouldn't do anything to her that could physically harm her, ie penetrative sex. Ultimately though the most important thing would be the emotional connection and making her happy and feel loved.

However, in reality, the legal repercussions and the social taboo combine to result in an almost uniformly negative result (though there are exceptions) for any child involved in such a relationship, even under the conditions described above. The fact that doing so is illegal means putting the child into a situation where they would need to hide such a relationship and feel ashamed or conflicted over it, or reveal it and have their adult boyfriend/girlfriend go to jail, and be told that they were abused and that the adult didn't love them and only used them for their own desires - this is true in some or possibly most cases, but would also happen in a theoretical "positive" adult-child relationship. Either way, the child ends up hurt and thus it can not be justified to engage in such a relationship.

I don't think a theoretical positive relationship as described would necessarily be abuse, but I do think it would be abuse to subject a child to the repercussions of it.

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