"A victim should not have to be accountable.'

If a grown woman goes to bar dressed like a ***, tells a man she wants to go back to his place, has a few drinks while kissing on him and then decides she doesn't want to have sex and he FORCES himself on her.... she was raped. She is also guilty of putting herself into a stupid position in the first place. She should take some accountability for that. She is still a victim, but that doesn't excuse her of lack of some part in the event.

If my 13 year old daughter finds herself alone with a 20 year old man I expect her to take a little accountability for not removing herself from the situation as soon as she feels uncomfortable. If at no point she becomes uncomfortable with the sexual nature of the encounter... is she still ONLY a victim?

I hope your nicer to your daughter when she comes home and says she was raped/molested. I really do.

And I really hope that you are little more outraged at your daughter when she sneaks out with her adult boyfriend to go smoke dope and have sex at his apartment.