Confessions of a Child Molester’s Wife
When my daughter, Bethany, was about one year old, I discovered blood in her diaper. I didn’t want to think about why my baby would be bleeding, but I guessed the source.
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My husband tearfully admitted that he had molested her but promised it would never happen again. He seemed very remorseful and I thought that since I caught him, he wouldn’t feel safe repeating the abuse.
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I accepted the pastor’s confident assurances that no further harm would come to Bethany. He gave me the assignment to focus on my marriage and to learn to trust my husband so I could save my daughter from his advances. According to him, any suspicion on my part would divide us and put Bethany in harm’s way. It was all up to me.
I tried to do everything I thought would help my relationship with my husband. I never said no to sex and I listened to everything he said.
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Going to the page, it gets worse. She knew he'd already gone Josh Duggar on a female relative when she married him.
And surprise surprise the husband continued to molest her until she was 16.
The pastor should be flayed alive, her ex husband can die in a fire as Volcheka says, but in my opinion Christina should take her own goddamned life. She says she had no knowledge to fall back on, but she'd been molested herself and she wasn't one of those who was conditioned to think it was normal. She knew it was wrong.
Yes, doing the right thing would have been very hard for her. Doing the wrong thing was much, much worse.
Oh my god... I really hope this public confession is enough to get that pastor and the husband locked away for life.
WTF is WRONG with all of you!? He friggin' RAPED your literal BABY!
And then the christian fundies dare say that only LGBT+ people condone such things...
I'd rush to the emergency room immediately, if there was blood in a diaper. What business is it of a pastor?
Tearful admitting, that sounds like the action of a practicing manipulator.
How could the pastor be confident that no further harm would come to Bethany?
You ought to focus on the safety of your child. The marriage and trust issue is the husband's problem; he's the one who has to fix that. HE was the one who brought the cause for the suspicions. It's all up to HIM not to molest his daughter.
You ought to have done everything to help your relationship with your daughter. The husband has only himself to blame. Not getting sex, not being listen to, would be VERY, VERY lenient punishments for what he did. You have every right in the world to say no to sex if you don't want to have sex. The husband has no right to sex, and certainly no right to molest a toddler if he doesn't get it from his wife.
He gave me the assignment to focus on my marriage and to learn to trust my husband so I could save my daughter from his advances. According to him, any suspicion on my part would divide us and put Bethany in harm’s way. It was all up to me.
Put her IN harm's way?! Sorry, but that almost sounds like the fucking pastor was issuing a veiled threat! And why would the sins of your "husband" be all up to you to prevent? Why is he not responsible for himself? Why must you bear GUILT for his evil?
I tried to do everything I thought would help my relationship with my husband. I never said no to sex and I listened to everything he said.
That's not why your husband raped your baby. He did it because he could, for his own sense of power and satisfaction. His impunity in the matter would only encourage him. What you did was wrong, what your pastor did was a malicious betrayal, and what your "husband" did disgusts me to such depths of anger I've come out the other side calm and comfortable in bloodlust. Which unlike your pastor would have you believe is my own responsibility to control and make amends with. Where is the penitence of that child molester? That onus of restraint for himself? Why is he absolved of any responsibility? Should he not pluck his own eye if it drives him to sin before turning his hands to others, to his FAMILY?!
You and your daughter should not bear the burden of an abuser's sins, remain with a monster who has hurt and betrayed you in the worst of ways, and defiled far more than the mantle of fatherhood. You have condemned your daughter to danger and suffering. Your daughter should not bear the scars of your complicity. For as long as you consider a looming threat to your child acceptable when weighed against social concerns you're not fit to be a mother.
As if what Cosby, Weinstein, Fart & Krapenough did wasn't bad enough, there's now this.
Hopefully this will come out, and be one of the nails in the coffin of Toxic Masculinity.
And if you're not the one reporting your... 'husband' to the Feds, you're an enabler .
You know what to do. And fuck your so-called 'Belie fs'. [/Josh Buggar]
You and your daughter are both victims here, but, your #1 priority should always be the safety of your child. Marriage is abuse if you're children are unsafe in it.
You have failed as a parent and I'm sorry that your religion poisoned your mind so much that you trusted a pastor and your husband and ignored the danger to your offspring and yourself.
What a stupid moll you are! And what a pity that two oxygen thieves like you and him managed to breed!
You don't deserve to be called a mother, you brainwashed trollop, if you believe your husband and that pedo-loving preacher's "confident assurances". You are an accomplice, you gutter slut!
@Timjer
I well remember that crap from the Plebiscite, last year. And then when the results of our Royal Commission into Abuse came through, about the same time, those "righteous" individuals shut right up!
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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