After homeschooling our two eldest children, people at our church told us that we should send them to a "Christian" college so that they could engage further in their faith.
Nothing takes care of fundamentalist indoctrination like an education.
Well... our first sign should have been that the college was not very homeschool friendly
That's because many states don't have any guidelines for homeschooling and as a result many homeschooled kids education is lacking at best and at worst their knowledge of History and Science tends to be skewed, lacking, or totally non-existent. And "Christian" college or not it isn't fair to the other students when valuble class time is spent having to catch up or correct just a few student's misperceptions or complete lack of knowledge. Neither students or the parents who pay the tuition should have to pay for someone decision to deny their child a decent education or to just avoid certain subjects because you disagree with them.
Folks, we are now reaping the rewards of that.
Well deserved rewards too I'll bet.
Our eldest son got placed with an openly gay roommate who introduced him to the dark side. This led him to come out himself
No one can "make" another person gay. No one "made your son gay. Someone may have helped him finally come out of the closet and accept who he was, but it is not possible to make someone be attracted to a member of the same sex if they never were before. Your son is gay, you can either accept that and realize that he is still the same person he was before, or you can sit there and continue to wallow in self pity and impotent anger lashing out at others for imagined wrongs.
and to walk away from his faith upon graduation
And why shouldn't he? After all your religion is one that tells him that he is an abomination and should be put to death. Who would want to remains in a religion that demands he deny who he is? Who would want to remains in a religion that worships a "god" that would torture him for being the way that "god" made him?
We began to notice troubling signs in our daughter as well. We have always held and taught our children very traditional Christian beliefs, including that a woman should be a keeper at home with her children.
In this day and age unless her husband is making a shit ton of money then without a second income there won't likely be a home to keep.
Well, in one of her classes some of the girls were making fun of her because she wants to be a housewife!
If that's her choice then that's fine. If it's because you have indoctrinated your daughter to believe that she can never be little more than a house slave/baby factory then she deserves to be told that she actually is allowed to have a life of her own rather than believing that she can only be defined as someones wife.
And to make matters worse, her teacher sided with the girls by saying that a woman should have a career first before marriage
And her teacher was right. Women are more than just an accessory and deserve to be treated as such.
and that to not "follow your dreams" (by this he obviously meant working 9-5) was stupid.
Unless you were there or have even ever talked to this teacher on the subject then you are simply making a biased and likely completely untrue judgement about what this teacher meant by that statment. You do not and cannot know what someone else means when they make any statement, and acting as if you do is playing to your own, and RR, biases. Your bible calls such things bearing false witness and command you not to do so.
My daughter was in tears when she talked to me on the phone that night!
Because of what was said in class or because she finally found out that she was more that just an accessory to be defined by a man?
Luckily, there is hope for my daughter she is going into her sophomore year next year and she will not be returning.
Too bad for her, condemned to a life of being defined by others and being told what her place is by people who haves their own intrests at heart rather than hers.
I don't know what to do and I feel so betrayed.
I wonder if your son feels the same way about you?
My husband and I are at our wits end, when we attended college, the fact that it was "Christian" meant something!
Boo-Hoo. Get over yourself, get over your expectations. The world does not, and will never, conform to your expectations and the sooner you realize that the better off you will be.
We have lately held family talks where I feel that it is time that we sent our daughter to a fundamentalist school.
Yeah that's a real good idea. Send your daughter to a school where she can be taught that she is nothing but property
I feel like they are slightly legalistic in a few respects
Slightly legalistic? I think that may just qualify as the understatment of the year.
but I have met many graduates of these schools who clearly love the Lord
If you'd like I can introduce you to just as many graduates of those schools who have realized that they didn't recieve an education but rather an indoctrination.
who do not struggle with such matters as modesty or manners because it was drilled into them.
They are your children, not soldiers in the military, Treat them as such.
PLUS all the female graduates of these colleges are happily married with children
You do not and cannot know that to be a fact, and to claim otherwise is simply lying to yourself.
and they teach respect for the god-ordained role of women
No, they teach women that they are little more property to be defined and used by others.
and they celebrate it and expect all their female students to live by it
Do they teach them anything else than how to be a proper wife and baby factory?
which is something my daughter's roommate needed, poor girl didn't know how to do her own laundry or cook
So? Those are not skills one must go to college to learn. In fact most people can figure out how to do so on their own.
and was always struggling with modesty!
A because you say so then therefore it must be true. How does one "struggle" with modesty anyway?
I am sorry for the rant.
No you aren't.
But like I said before, I feel so betrayed that a "Christian" organization would so blantantly violate basic Christian beliefs.
Like what beliefs? The belief that women are property and have no place in the world other than finding a husband to serve?
It boggles my mind!
I think trying to calculate the sheer amount of things that you boggle your uncurious mind would boggle my own.
