I lived in downtown Manhattan for a number of years. I knew a great many homosexuals, far more than 99.99% of the population will ever meet unless they are one. And I knew many of them as people, human beings, not some “other” to fear or despise.
And because I was innocent and curious at the time, I asked many of them flat-out why they were homosexual. And I got these answers constantly:
- they experienced sexual abuse themselves;
- their fathers were almost always absent, and where they weren’t they were either distant or abusive;
- mothers who psychologically dominated them, very often single man-hating feminist mothers who hated masculinity in general and took out that hate on their helpless male children
You hear the same story from so many people with so many details, you come to understand that these things don’t happen by accident. They are caused by the parents EVERY time.
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I grew up with my father and mother. They never abused me, nor was I abused by anyone else. Around puberty I found out I like other boys. Same deal with another gay buddy of mine, who is currently in a much healthier relationship than most heterosexual people my age I've known. There, now that we know it's not EVERY time, maybe you could stop spreading bullshit to rationalize something that people with far more credibility than you have trouble explaining.
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Did you also ask heterosexuals why they are heterosexual?
What about their helpless female children? I have some hundred online acquaintances that are lesbian, pan-sexual or bisexual. They report no more sexual abuse than anyone else, some of the dads were absent, but some dads of the straight ones were also absent, same with the mothers; some were strong, some were weak and most were inbetween.
Oh, and for the umpteenth time; FEMINISTS DON'T HATE MEN! We just want to point out that women are people too, and we want equality.
Cleaning truck stop mens' rooms doesn't qualify as "knowing gays."
And then...
'My dad was a long-haul truck-driver whom I missed. To make up for the time we lost, I have sex with other men.'
'My mom always bitched about men. Sure that other women would behave in the same way, and without investigating it myself, I now let someone drive down the old dirt road.'
'Someone sexualy abused me as a kid, so I play both pitcher and catcher now.'
'Someone dared me to watch Two Girls, One Cup when I was 14. I could never look at girls the same way again - but, thankfully, I still like chocolate icecream.'
Seems legit.
And none gave you the answer, "I've always felt this way." Let's not ignore the possibility that the people you asked knew that you had already made up your mind, so they gave you the answers you expected. Kind of like asking a hooker how she got into the business; she'll give you the answer she knows you want to hear.
I have to wonder, however, why you asked so many people for so many details. Perhaps you were looking for something to relate your own feelings to?
I asked many of them flat-out why they were homosexual. And I got these answers
I'll take 'Shit that never happened' for $400, Alex.
because I was [...] curious
Yeah. Question: Have you ever had any gay impulses , thoughtyou'realouser...?! [/Bryan Fischite]
Just keep proving Freud right, bigots.
You know, all these theories about what "causes" homosexuality never take into account lesbians. And bisexuality? What's that?
So in conclusion you're talking out of your ass.
I'm calling bull. Why should anyone answer "I've experienced sexual abuse" to the question why he "became" gay? Even if that was true, how do you know that this was the reason? Except if these people were already indoctrinated by their church or some anti-LGBT people that it had to be. Still, it's more probable that you just pulled this righst out of your ass.
Here, let me tell you my story: My parents were always there for me, I never suffered any kind of abuse, my father was neither distant nor abusive and my mother is a very down-to-earth, slightly conservative person (but very rational and empathic at the same time). I have a straight sister and a straight brother. Yet I still turned out gay. And I never was anything else. Strange, isn't it? Oh and also my parents accepted me for who I am, even though my father is a pretty conservative person. Just so you know.
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You know as many gay people as I do people who really are in on the New World Order's true agenda. heh, fucking sheeple won't ever see it coming
Bonus point for the man-hating feminist strawman. Another bonus point for outright mentioning the strawman by name. No bonus points for creativity though.
You are right in that it's caused by the parents though... specifically by the mother giving birth to you. Do not pass go, do not collect a working brain cell.
Yeah, we believe you too. NOT!
Graffiti on the men's room wall:
My mother made me a homosexual
Someone wrote underneath:
If I give her the wool, could she make me one too?
Far more than 99.99%?
How much far more can a part of 0.01% be?
As others have stated you probably pulled those answers out of your ass, but I want to add another possibility: Maybe the OP stated his question far more ambiguously, like "why are you so..you know, like you are?" in the middle of a conversation about, say, depressions or addiction. Because homophobes often think there is a whole lifestyle attached to being homosexual.
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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