Acceptance: Realising that that perfect girl will never manifest from thin air wearing the wedding gown and hungry for your penis, but that making your inability to find a mate the centre of your life, along with the toxic ideas promoted by the incel community, renders being forever alone a self-fulfilling prophecy. The incel learns to live on his own, becomes capable of true self-improvement and, more likely than not, will eventually find love. Virgin normies are already here.
I won't nitpick your other points - but this one is worth commenting on because it reveals so much that's flawed, cowardly, and one-dimensional with you moralistic incel-in-denial types.
Let's start with the first sentence:
Realising that that perfect girl will never manifest from thin air wearing the wedding gown and hungry for your penis
No one here is "waiting for the perfect girl". Nevermind this stupid strawman of wanting her to be a personal sex slave. The fundamental recognition of this subreddit in particular is how imperfect women are. It's an oddly egalitarian recognition compared to your beta-male angelicizing of women: we recognize that women are just as much "cavemen" as men supposedly are - we recognize how important a role looks play in your day-to-day life and long-term self-development, and that lookism comes from both men and women. The only thought-crime being committed here is a violation of the "women are wonderful" effect - we have the nerve to say "women are shit too".
but that making your inability to find a mate the centre of your life
The inability to find a mate is an absolutely soul-crushing and major part of your life - it cannot be escaped. Life exists to self-reproduce, it's the fundamental instinct common to all life. Going through each successive stage of adulthood without having the most basic thing that all humans seek will absolutely be the centre of your life. Sex and intimacy is literally recognized as a basic physiological need by Maslow. What an absurdly stupid frame of mind this "stop focusing on it" bullshit is.
along with the toxic ideas promoted by the incel community, renders being forever alone a self-fulfilling prophecy.
In part this can be true - but again, it depends on who you're speaking to. If you accept the suicidal nihilism that might come with the blackpill, then indeed this is inevitable, but if you use the blackpill to your advantage and realise the complete value of improving your looks at all costs, you could come out successful. The blackpill has motivated me to make the most of my looks. How one responds to the blackpill doesn't say anything about the blackpill itself - the blackpill is descriptive, not prescriptive.
The incel learns to live on his own, becomes capable of true self-improvement and, more likely than not, will eventually find love. Virgin normies are already here.
And we finally get to the good part. This is what it's all about from your perspective. "Be a peaceful humble virgin". "Be a virgin that accepts his lot in life without protest or anger". "Just ignore the fact that women literally get into and stay in relationships with men who physically abuse them - just don't be angwy like those evil inkels and you're a good person".
I say bullshit. There is absolutely 100% legitimate reasons to be disgusted with the current sexual-social climate, gender disparities in the sexual market place, and the myriad of manners in which women are privileged and (low-value) men maligned and discarded. This is not something to accept silently and humbly, just to satisfy the moral sanctimony of your delusions. By the way - the only "true self improvement" is improving your looks and social charisma. Nothing else. Injustice - in this instance, the maligning, discarding, and mistreating of low-value men - isn't something to chuck your head in the sand over, and pretend it will just go away if you're "kind and nice" enough - at the very least it is something to be discussed.