Hi guys,
I am here today, and I know that I am such a coward. I totally need your advice, so please, please help me. I do not know how to handle this.
My Boss and his wife are both Agnostic. They are very nice people, and we get along great - so long me do not go on the religious path. It happened twice that my boss' wife took the Lords Name in vain infront of me. He never does it, he does not agree with my faith, but he respects it. His wife on the other hand apparently does not care.
The first time I was was so shocked, it felt she punched me in the stomach! I then thought if it happened again, I would tell her not to do it, and then... Yesteday - she did it AGAIN, and what did I do.... just stood there in shock and not saying a word.
I feel so ashamed towards my Lord and to every Christian. Could you give me any advice how I should handle this. She is quite a difficult person, and I do not know how I should approach her.
Waiting for any advice. I feel so terrible for not standing up for my faith, but I want to let her know to never, ever do it again. Want to correct my cowardness!
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Stop being a cowardness?
lol cowardness
Mickey, in the adult world, people get very frustrated sometimes, and they need to say something.
"God" is an easy one-syllable word, like "fuck", "bitch", or "damn".
So shutup!
"The first time I was so shocked , it felt like she punched me in the stomach!"
Think maybe, just maybe you're a bit too thin skinned?
You should definitely confront both the boss and his wife and tell them in detail how they are worthless sinners who will burn in hell unless they change their ways and adopt your beliefs 100%. You should do this when they are together, preferably at a company function in front of all your co-workers -- even better if there are some important customers present.
Not to do so would reveal a lack of faith in your Lard's ability to provide. If you are more concerned with holding on to your job than standing up for your faith, you will be doomed to hell as well.
And then you'll have to hear a lot of god damned cussin' for eternity.
You should immediately tell your boss that he has no control over the brazen hussy and then go on to tell him how to correct his difficult wife.
Then you should brush off the resume and hope that bob's hiring.
(a) if God is worried about it, let Him deal with it Himself.
(b) What does "take God's name in vain" mean, anyway? Ask a priest, minister and rabbi and you'll get three different answers. The two most popular ones are "don't swear a false oath in God's name" and "don't claim to be speaking for God". The idea that saying "oh, God" or "God damn" is taking God's name in vain is a kindergarten Bible-book interpretation.
A guy is playing golf with his pastor. Every time he makes a bad shot, he slams the club down and yells "God damn it! Missed again!". Finally the pastor asks him to knock it off. He apologizes, but the next time, he does it again. The pastor tells him he's really getting upset. Finally the guy does it one more time. The pastor looks heavenward, points to the guy and says "Lord, smite this sinner!" A dark cloud gathers. There's a rumble of thunder. Suddenly a bolt of lightning fries the pastor to a crisp!
Then out of the cloud is heard a heavenly voice: "God damn it ... missed again!"
You could choose to think rationally about the whole situation, which might lead to the realization that faith doesn't deserve respect. And that your ridiculous fear of curses is poisoning your relationships.
Failing that, you could just grow up and get over yourself.
I think you should grow a thicker skin and learn to live with people who have different beliefs than you.
Also, I'd bet every cent I own that this person would insist that it is his constitutional right to tell gay people they are horrible sinners who are going to burn in hell. (It is his right, but that's beside the point.)
Jesus Fucking Christ, you have absolutely no right to tell your bosses wife what she can and cannot say. It is not up to you, regardless of whether it offends you or not.
God damn, I hate fundies who think the world must conform to their twisted beliefs.
Ok, the boss doesn't do it around you because of employer/employee relationships. That would mean bad business and the possiblity of him being sued for such things from his employee(s) if it's in the workplace. The wife, unless she too works there or is in the workplace, on the other hand is perfectly in her rights to say such things.
Of course, you could always start preaching to her about the rapture...oh yeah, there's nothing in the bible about it.
"Could you give me any advice how I should handle this."
I suggest the traditional solution of tongue removal which worked so well against heretics and blasphemers in the past. Depending on where you work, finding a tongue-removing implement at short notice may be tricky, which is why I recommend carrying a hip pack with you at all times containing a taser, scalpel, and white hot poker for cauterizing the wound.
But avoid light green hip packs like the plague. They are so last season. And they clash with the blood. :(
What... she swore an oath in YHWH's name and then broke it... Twice??
You don't really know what the Bible says there, do you?
Smack her around with a giant key! (Five points to whoever gets that joke.)
And idiot: "Could you please not do that? I'm a Christian."
As big a douchebag as I am, that USUALLY works with me. And if it doesn't, well shit, get over it. I mean God damn (oh, the irony), if I got all teary-eyed every time one of you people made fun of atheism, I'd have been slitting my wrists and writing bad poetry after five minutes on this site.
Hmm, sad to say i don't agree with everyone here. I mean i don't mind the bashing of a fundie for saying something stupid like "How can you say ____ is true if the bible doesn't say anything" but this is hardly a wanker trying to convert anyone.
Personally, a good idea would be to say something to her, perhaps she'll stop. However, if she chooses not to, then besides walking away from her you're kind of fucked. she can say whatever she wishes, but alot of people would do it out of respect for another persons religion. With you not saying anything, what would you expect? She has to know you're offended before she'll alter her actions (If she chooses to do so)
Can't understand why everyone will start flaming this poor fucker for saying something that is hardly fundy talk, & in no way an attempt to convert people, he's practicing his religion without forcing it down two agnostics throats & you're all talking about him like he's AV1611VET or something. Even though, you all sound just as fucking stupid as him. & you tell him to grow up *sigh* I mean only a handful of posts out of nearly 50 are rational & decent ones.
Hi,
I'm agnostic myself. The thing is your boss's wife is probably comfortable enough around you to let her guard down. Either that or she's just unaware of what she's doing.
Let her know politely that you take offense when she does that. If she's reasonable, she'll understand she's making you feel uncomfortable.
If we don't have conversations about our faith, or lack thereof, we can't understand the oposing viewpoint. Not every Christian is an Anne Coulter and not every agnostic or athiest is Richard Dawkins. There is a middle ground. And it's paved with respect.
I went to high school with someone who would throw objects at you, threaten your life, or just curse up a storm if someone said the dreaded "G.D. Word" (God Damn). Needless to say, he didn't understand the hypocrisy when it was pointed out to him.
"Think maybe, just maybe you're a bit too thin skinned?"
This is a fundie, their skin is so goddamn thin it's practically transparent
Christians do "take the Lord's Name in vain" too, you know. It dates back to the time when people believed more in the mystical, supernatural. The Lord's name was then sort of a strengthening potion, it made your statements stronger, more powerful. It doesn't really mean any disrespect (most of the times). "Jumping gargoyles" means as much as "holy fuck" or "God damn it".
You probably have way to thin skin, you need to learn that what others do and say, that's their problem, they have to answer for it.
How can you say in the beginning "they are very nice people" and then you say "she's quite a difficult person"? It doesn't add up. Being difficult is not very nice.
The only thing you can do, really, is to politely ask her to try and refrain from swearing in front of you. She has the right to use whatever words she want, it's part of free speech. But out of politeness, people often refrain form swearing in front of people who take offense. If the person who take offense behaves respectfully back, of course. It's a two-way street.
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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