Kids need spankings to grow up properly, that is one thing that can be seen by merely going into a supermarket or movie theater and watching how they behave. Five swats with a wooden paddle is not abusive in the least and, contrary to popular belief, it is perfectly legal. I say, spank away, but make sure the child really deserves it. They can understand a spanking when it is fair.
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Hitting a child with any object is illegal in this state. In some countries, hitting a child is illegal no matter what. I haven't heard about wild, out of control children in Sweden (the first place to ban spanking that I know of) or in any other place where hitting kids is illegal.
I feel bad for a parent who has no better response to misbehavior than to hit, it must be a horrible feeling to have so few options in your parenting repertoire.
FIVE?
My mother used a paddle from time to time, and I hated it, but I don't remember getting whacked across the ass FIVE TIMES! My mom's pretty nuts, but that would be sadistic even by her standards.
A wooden paddle? What the hell? There's a hell of a difference between a spanking and a severe arse beating, and I'll think you'll find that it constitutes as child abuse in the UK, and most other countries I've been to.
I agree and then I dont agree with this post..
I agree that if a child does not behave well and disrespects you when you are trying to to discipline the child when the child is totally in the wrong.. then yes, spanking would be considerable..
now beating them with a hard wooden object, I dont agree with that, id rather spank my child leaving a red mark on their butt then beat em black and blue
A wooden paddle? Don't you think you're going a little over board?
I'm not one of those people that freaks out every time someone gives their kid a slap on the wrist. It's one thing to give your kid a light slap (not on the face of course), but to actually hit them hard enough to cause significant pain is a whole other story.
That's just teaching your child that violence is an ok, which we really don't need more of in this world.
Five swats is excessive. Otherwise, I agree that physical discipline is sometimes necessary, but should never be deferred. My experience as a child taught me that The Belt is preferable to the cooking spoon.
I hear stories about unsufferable brats in the UK, where spanking is verboten, but there are obviously other factors....
How many warnings do you give before you whale away?
Spanking is a last resort in my house. After being warned a few times and the child doesn't listen then other enforcements have to be tried. However, we don't beat them into oblivion and the spanking occurs with a hand. Our youngest has gotten into the biting once in a while, though, so usually if he gets your leg while you're just sitting there a whap on the back of the head stops it quick.
I just hope the cops arent deluded psychos like this guy if I ever see someone beating on a kid (dont care if its theirs or not) with a paddle (or stick, or metal ruler, or whatever). Even if its theirs (and stopping the beating would take priority over finding that out shouldnt it), thats no bloody excuse.
I remember this one time I punched this kid in the nose in third grade. Well, obviously my teacher would call since it was violent. My father was away on duty so before my mother brought up the incident, I took a shower. Afterwards I proceeded to my room to change. I put on at least five pairs of underwear and prepared for the spanking.
After making me reveal my secret, she couldn't continue due to the amount of laughter.
I swatted my kid (now an adult) with my hand, when all else absolutely failed, as many times as I can count on one hand. I never used an implement, and I never spanked as a routine method of discipline. It was always last resort, and it was always for something important, like don't run into the street in front of cars.
If a child grows up being spanked for every little thing they'll probably never misbehave, but for all the wrong reasons -- being afraid of being caught and hit, rather than, oh, Mommy taught me that this or that is a wrong thing to do.
Hmmm...well, maybe that would explain a fundie's favorite threat, "Wait 'til your Father gets home!"
I slapped my child exactly once, sharply on the wrist, when continued attempts to stop him running into the road didn't work. He was so shocked he never did it again.
My mother, on the other hand, hit out regularly and for the slightest reason. We are still in touch (though more out of duty than anything else on my part) but see each other perhaps once a year. She wishes it could be more often. I don't. I could forgive the (useless) punishment if it had just been 'the way they did it' back then - but my mother spent a lot of my childhood bemoaning the way she was treated when she was growing up, then proceeded to treat her kids the same way.
*shrugs* Her loss.
If you want your children to hate you, by all means beat them at your whim.
It worked for my parents.
To my knowledge, my parents hit any of their kids a total of ONE time; an early morning when my siblings and I had been arguing and fighting, and I had become hysterical, my dad hit me to stop me from screaming. I think we were all shocked (including my dad) and I stopped screaming immediately.
My three siblings and I have all grown up properly; we are all productive members of society and we are all in steady, longstanding relationships.
The least you can do is use your hand. At least that will discourage you from hitting your child too hard or frequently. (Otherwise, you'll get a sore hand. And you'd deserve it, too.)
Even better, stop abusing children already.
Sure, and all those kids who bleed are also popular belief?. And man, we go to supermarkets and movie theatres and they don´t behave in any way which is suspicious. Sometimes they are a little noisy but, you know, they´re not miniaturised adults.
I don't really see this as fundie...although I personally disagree with spankings, as long as the spankings do not cause damage or severe pain I don't think that it necessarily falls into the realm of child abuse. Borderline, maybe, but not as bad as say shoving a soap bar into a child's mouth.
Edit: beating your child with an object, however, is most definitely child abuse.
Of course, if five strikes with a hard wooden object don't work then you can move onto a small stabbing or, if they have siblings, hanging by the neck, pour encourager les autres.
Spanking is fine, I know it discouraged me from misbehaving. Or at least from getting caught, but that's most likely because I'm a bit odd. But 5 licks with a paddle is too much. 3 with a handor belt is plenty, and make sure not to overuse it, as should never be the only tool in your repitoire, and should be a last resort/for serious things only.
My parents took it a bit far, with 3 licks, 6 if I cried (because boys aren't supposed to cry), and 3 more if I didn't stop crying within 5 seconds, repeat until crying stops.
'Course, that only goes for children. If your spouse is into getting spanked, go right ahead, up until they withdraw consent, obviously. But that's a different matter.
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