Do you think Straight Men dont like bi girls because theyre afraid of being replaced by a woman?
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Bi girl here, and I've actually had a guy tell me exactly this. No excuse for her generalizing all men, but it does still happen and she's probably just being over dramatic and butthurt over some guy recently as relationships tend to make young ones do. Meh'd for tameness and having at least some truth to it.
Isn't the stereotype the other way around, that straight men love bi girls because it increases the odds of threesomes?
As a sexual aromantic, I couldn't give a rat's ass in any direction, personally.
My man surely didn`t mind, specially the threesomes we had.
@Man Called True
At least in the case of my marriege this is true.
Funny fact, I am actually sexually attracted to other women as bit more than to men but my hubby`s my only love in my life and, well maybe I`m just demisexual, I guess.
I'm down with bi girls....at least partially for the reason Man Called True said, I gotta admit.
I had a bi GF for a while, we never did have a threesome, but it was kinda fun checking out girls with her, at least...LOL
She makes a valid, if ambiguously generalising point. There is a major issue with both straight and gay people of both genders being unwilling to get into a relationship with bi folks out of a frankly ridiculous insecurity that I have never understood.
What, you're afraid they'll run off with someone of the other gender as you? But you aren't afraid they'll run off with someone of the same gender as you? I honestly don't understand the difference.
I've actually seen that one in action: Quite a few men fantasize about bisexual women, right up to the point where they realize that they might lose them to another woman, or that the two girls in a threesome can have pleasure without involving him.
That's not an excuse to generalize this to all men, but it's a well-known result of the sexualization of female to female attraction.
As a bi person, I second Happy Atheist on this one. Somehow both straight and gay people perceive bi people as having a "fake" sexuality liable to betray them. It's like the extra dimension to the usual assumption of "all bi girls are just experimenting" and "all bi guys are really gay" stereotype.
I think this whole resentment of bi people comes partly from the doubling of insecurity (thinking that they now have to compete with twice the people for the bi person's affection) and partly from being unable to process that it isn't some neat 50/50 split. Bi people aren't necessarily interested equally in both genders or not interested in same things from each gender, just as non-bi people might have a preference for redheads or whatnot. Bi folks just seem unpredictable at first glance, but the reality is when they are with someone, that's the person they like; they are not on the prowl for someone else of either gender at that time (unless, you know, it's a polyamorous sort of relationship to begin with).
Another part of it is probably that when someone is very heterosexual or very homosexual, they find it hard to imagine what it's like to be attracted to someone of the gender that they themselves dismiss. It seems weird and insulting that they might be "abandoned" by their bisexual partner for someone else of that "wrong" gender.
That being said, I am currently seeing a man, and his paranoia is not that I might leave him for someone else, but that in the unlikely event that he tries to leave me for someone else, I might like that person enough to steal them.
A straight person getting involved with someone who's bi means that you're in potential competition with 55% of the population instead of 45%. Whoop-de-friggilin' doo.
(I was only involved with a another woman once. Not because I prefer men that much more, but because there are far more potential partners among straight men than any other group, and none at all among straight women. Heterosexuality's like, still the majority.)
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