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Paul J. Bucknell #fundie foundationsforfreedom.net

Pain's Reward (12:6)

If it doesn't hurt, it doesn't work.

AND HE SCOURGES EVERY SON WHOM HE RECEIVES." (Hebrews 12:6)

We don't pretend that certain aspects of discipline don't hurt. In fact, the word 'scourge' is very strong and indicates that at times, chastisement needs to be very painful to accomplish its goals.

Do not hold back discipline from the child, although you beat him with the rod, he will not die. (Proverbs 23:13)

Although parents might feel that they are 'damaging' their child, chastisement brings about a greater good that could not otherwise be accomplished. The scriptures do not deny that the child will suffer if chastised, but only that it is temporary and he will not die. The scriptures do repeatedly acknowledge that the child will suffer without chastisement.

Some people avoid pain and conflict at all costs.These people will not be able to care for their children. The child must experience the pain associated with chastising to be properly trained. God has to train parents too!

Those who train for the marathon severely discipline their bodies. Their bodies ache and groan. And all for only a race or competition. This modern generation doesn't object to self-inflicted training. They object to the enforcement of one person's will upon another.

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What can I do about worried neighbors?

Chastisement can be noisy! Neighbors sometimes get concerned when they hear your child screaming. They do not see your caring love nor your long-term plan.

It is essential that you start training your child when he is a baby. This will enable you to gain the child's respect your 'no' very early This will not eliminate the need for chastisement, but it will greatly limit it.

We have trained our children, especially the loud criers, to cover their mouths when they cry. It works! We also do not tolerate extreme crying or yelling. Yelling is an expression of rebellion. The child must be warned of it and, if necessary, also be chastised for his disobedience. Listen carefully to your child's cries to discern the differences.

Choose to discipline in private places that absorb sound. If you live in apartments, flats or condos, choose the room away from the halls and with more insulation like a rug. You might cover an air vent for the brief moment. Walk-in closets are great.