@AmesCG

Hey, on the contrary. If you recognize that you have a problem, restrain yourself from acting on it, and seek treatment, I have no problem with you.

Well that's better at least. You should not have a problem with most pedophiles than, though you might still have a problem with me.
I do not view pedophilia as a problem (I believe it is a sexual orientation) and I do not think I am a monster who needs treatment or else will eventually offend. I do not think I must avoid children or else my "monstrous" urges will overcome me. I do actively seek out social contact with certain children.
But I do restrain myself from sex or sexual contact with children and from watching CP. So I think I have the most important one mostly down. Though morally I do not think sex or sexual contact with a child would be wrong if the child were willing and enjoyed it (as well as a bit more of a list that would be kinda long so I won't put it all down

@AmesCG

Here I disagree with you very strongly. Sexual orientation is a preference for consensual sexual activity and children cannot consent to sex. "Child abuser" is no more a sexual orientation than "rapist" is.I don't think you're a monster, but I do think you should seek treatment and be careful with your interactions. Have a listen to this episode of This American Life about a group that tries to help people in your position. I think it might help you. Please consider it.
Not great. As I said, please don't come to conclusions about what might or might not harm people on your own. Please talk with someone about it. I understand that might be difficult but it's better for you and for those around you. I have to very strongly underline this point. You're wrestling with some serious things, and therapy or talking with someone you trust might help you, and prevent you from getting into serious trouble, while also protecting those around you. Really, there's no downside aside from serious discomfort, but that pales into comparison with the stakes here.

There is the crux of the issue. I believe children can consent to sex.
I believe this because it is undeniably true. Children can and do consent to sex and sex play with other children. In fact, most child psychologist view sex play as something that is beneficial to children and while the child should be taught that sex is private and should not be forced upon them or anyone else, they also think children should be permitted to engage in safe and age appropriate sex play.
So the issue it is not "children cannot consent to sex", but "children cannot consent to sex (or sexual contact) with someone who is more than x years older than them". I believe that a sexual relationship with between a child and an adult is not by definition harmful. Though I also believe the adult should take extra steps to insure safety and that the child is actually willing and not just participating because the adult wants them to.