Most of the people are taught early on that , ladies first and they should be respected. We are told that women are fragile and soft. These are the BS that are fed to the children and teenagers. The most effective form of brainwashing are the movies. And guess what, the DISNEY movies. I regret watching those cucked romantic propaganda.This is not feminism. This is patriarchal sexism in its patronising aspect. You may have been raised to believe women were pure and soft, You were raised with that crappy kitsch and believed it to be true. That would certainly go a long way to explain a lot about you, such as your Madonna/Whore Complex and your messed-up ideas about ideal love.
I was not. I was not raised to hold to see women as “fragile and soft”. I did not watch Disney’s old bastardised fairy tales nor those teen flicks that are your basic model of society. I have always been close to my tomboy mother and strongly resemble her in personality. I had, in so far as I had a social life, at least as many female friends as male ones. I had many very competent and dedicated female teachers and therapists.
I always knew that women are human just like everyone else and that women are just as capable of bravery and intellect and badassery as men. I always perceived “chivalry” as the patronising sexism it is and was put off by it. And for all my sexual frustration and romantic hopelessness and the feeling that no woman would ever love me and, I must admit, being a creep (which I always knew was wrong, but all too often, my libido and curiosity proved stronger than my will and decency - which of course, only increased my self loathing and shame…), all of which I always locked up inside me because I am reclusive and withdrawn in anything that does not relate to my knowledge and I had no one I felt confident to talk to about these things, even through I perceived my confused sexuality as alien and uncomfortable and intrusive, even as I tried to convince me that sex was not something for me and that love and family are overrated and that the gene pool would be better off without me contributing to it… I was never, even once, tempted to misogyny, never wavered in my belief in the equality between the sexes, never weakened in my disgust towards sexism, never lost my empathy.
Perhaps this is why I hate you incels so much - because I know better than most that your hatred and psychopathy and nihilism are not a perfectly reasonable and rational response to a romantically bleak teenage adulescence, because I have been there myself, yet was never in peril of becoming like you, and in the end, I emerged stronger, with the strong hope and intention to earn my happy ending.
Am I representative of “bluepilled” men? I do not know and I do not believe that it matters. But I certainly do not resemble your strawman of male feminists except in appearence, nor any other incel archetype.
(Uff. The middle part turned much deeper into my the few dark and troubled parts of my past than I originally intended.)