[ Is it okay to have opposite-sex friends if you're exclusively dating someone?
I just recently talked to the girl I'm seeing about maintaining opposite-sex friendships if our relationship gets more serious. I have a few close female friends since university days and I'm wondering if it is okay to keep contact with them even if my relationship to the current girl I'm seeing gets more serious. However, she thinks it is a bad idea because things can get slippery. Any opinions? ]

micky_x:-: If you can see yourself being with this girl for a very long time I would suggest you do as she says.
Most of you would say no don't give up your friends. But your friends should be the ones to understand the situation.
Girls, you can keep depending yourself and saying you won't get jealous if your man was best friends with another girl who you know is a lot prettier than you, but when it really comes down to it, you're dying inside. You're constantly wondering what their doing. And your friends will constantly ask you if you're okay with that. Trust me. If you want someone, fight for it. Do as they say. & if you lose your friends because of her, then they weren't your friends to start with.
Been there, done that. Get over it. If your friends don't understand your situation and if your life depends on your friends, then don't get a girlfriend.
& if your a girl, giving your man space to hang out with his "guy" friends is better than giving him space to hang with his "girl" friends.You really honestly think your man wont leave you if you keep allowing him to just go off and meet girls? Pshh. Good luck with that.

NONE.LIKEYOU : No in my case. I'm not going to outright demand someone I'm dating to stop talking to all his girl friends, but you can bet that my flags are going off and that I'll be super alert to how he acts and what he says to those friends. Call me suspicious, untrusting, paranoid, but with my understanding of female-male relationships (especially at this age), there's no such thing as close friends or exes who are on good terms. So, yes, I'd be the "over possessive" type in that I would be highly uncomfortable with my boyfriend speaking regularly to a recent ex, or having girl friends that are highly emotionally compatible with him. The fact that she voiced it out to you (in my opinion) shows that she trusts you enough to let you see this more vulnerable, insecure side to her that is typically not regarded as 'attractive'. It's not chic or cool to be jealous, but I have the feeling that most of us are more sensitive than we act.

Of course, this is just how I see it. But that's my answer for you: it's not really okay,