(on eHarmony getting sued to offer same-sex matches)
This is an outrage! How completely ridiculous is this?? I used to be pretty cool with the gay rights movement, but now I just can't see it that way! These people are going crazy. They've been nothing short of horrible to Christians!!
I'm aware that not everyone in the gay community is like that, but what I've seen just this past week has been shocking and disturbing! I'm getting really sick of these shenanigans!
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Instead of sueing eHarmony, why not use a gay matchmaking service, or match.com?
Also, how is sueing an online dating service harmful to Hhristians?
That is kind of ridiculous, they don't have to offer that service, I'm sure there are other places out there. I mean, this is the Internet.
Well, I can see it. By refusing to offer services to homosexuals, they were effectively practicing discrimination and refusing to sell their services to that particular demographic. It would be equivalent to a business like eBay refusing to let blacks sell their stuff on the site.
It relates to Christianity because eHarmony was founded by a fundamentalist Christian, who specifically set up the site to only permit men to look for women, or women to look for men - no gays need apply. The site's founder pretty much openly stated that he intended it to further Christian relationship values.
The suit was actually filed in 2005.
As a gay man I didn't get it either, they don't want me, I don't want them. But apparently it is a violation of State laws against discrimination. I still won't use their service.
Regardless, how is this 'horrible to Christians'? And did you just say 'shenanigans'?
I can understand this one because the founder of eHarmony is a Christian and the service is a private company. As such, they should be allowed to offer or exclude whatever services they choose. If they choose not to offer dating connections for homosexuals, so be it.
This is one case of the minority dictating to the majority.
I have my issues with that suit, but as far as Christians are concerned, there's the minor detail of Romans 13:1-5, which doesn't have an exception for anti-discrimination laws.
I am pro gay rights and found this offensive. So they don't cater to your group..so what? Guess what e-Harmony kicks about 20% of HETERO applicants.
This is like going to a book store and if they don't have any books you like, suing them. No one is saying you cannot have gay dating services, it is just that this particular service did not cater to gays.
I think our society is getting WAY too sue happy.
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Although those people have no right to sue eHarmony for this, how is it any different from the millions of other frivolous lawsuits that straight people file every year?
As for the bitching about the gay rights movement... This isn't part of the gay rights movement, because having an internet matchmaking service cater to your sexual preference isn't a right or civil liberty.
They've been nothing short of horrible to Christians!!
Poor dear, how you must have suffered.
Though overall I agree that if it's a private company, they can restrict their clientele to only the most avid self-flagellators, for all anyone should care.
I didn't submit this because of the feeling that the suit was ridiculous- I think that it is a stupid lawsuit. eHarmony could only want to match people who like playing Ping-Pong on the roof for all I care. I submitted this because of the "Oh teh noes we're being oppressed" mentality Minori has.
Sorry- I didn't really mention that in my background comment.
Although I consider myself liberal, I believe that eHarmony has every right to discriminate against whomever they wish, just as I have a right not to do business with them. In fact, I'd tell people not to do business with them because they discriminate against homosexuals; I think that's more effective than suing them. Maybe I'm incorrect.
That isn't to say I don't believe the poster of this garbage isn't batshit insane- they are clearly batshit insane.
What self-respecting gay person would WANT that creepy old man matchmaking them? Unfortunately, there really aren't any good gay dating sites, just 'lots of creepy people posting photos for you to browse through'. It'd be nice if there was a gay equivalent to eharmony, created by someone who's spent years studying what makes same-sex couples tick.
This was a perfectly legit lawsuit. eHarmony is a company that has customers in New Jersey. Under state law, it must offer its services to everyone and thus cannot discriminate against any group. It could've simply stopped operating in New Jersey and the case would've been moot. It did the right thing - settled the suit and offered a free six month membership to the first 10,000 gays/lesbians that join.
Nothing but good came out of this lawsuit, and the best part is is that it pissed off a lot of fundies!!!!
Meh, supposedly e-Harmony claimed it was using science to make the matches, and it hadn't done studies on gay couples, so the data wouldn't apply to them, thus making the service not-so-useful. I used to side with e-Harmony on this one...
...until I found out that the founder has ties to Focus on the Family, the rabidly anti-gay nutjob group. Now I'm much more inclined to say that was a cover for discrimination. Ironically, that's one of the reasons I'd never use the fucking thing, even after the lawsuit.
I met my fiancee on Okcupid (and we're lesbians! gasp) and I wouldn't use the new "Compatible Partners" site Eharmony is making for us homos. Seriously, okcupid is free and loves their LGBTQ members so why would I use something else?
I understand the discrimination side of it, though. I just don't think anyone's going to really use it-your money is still going to go to the guy who denied you in the first place.
Well I am sort of against suing them, just don't use their services.
They also don't allow anyone who's been divorced more than once, and a lot of people are refused for unknown reasons. Meh, let them be the fundie dating service.
I've also heard they won't set up an interracial connection either. I met my love playing crib online, so you never know where you'll meet.
Personally, I don't see the benefit of using a matchmaking service that will accept your money because they *have* to, when there are services specifically for LGBT people. At the same time, people like Minori need to understand that "these shenanigans" are a response to being pushed around for too long and having a right literally taken away from us.
By the way, as a bisexual, I still think eHarmony discriminates against the likes of me. "Gender open" is not an option. You gotta go with one or the other. Makes me want to start my own damn site.
Well they did violate the law, so in that sense the suit has some footing. But I still say people would be better off taking their searching elsewhere. Besides, the founder gives me a bad case of the willies every time I see an ad for that place. Sheesh man, you're like Orville Redenbacher's creepy twin.
eharmony is a joke anyway, they won't match atheists either, i doubt they would take non-christians at all, much less gay folks.
while i find it strange to do this, i salute the people suing
eharmony for violating the law
i will say this the outrage is ridiculous on minori's part, how stupid can you get?
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I'd heard that one of the reasons eHarmony was getting sued over this is that they would offer to take the money from people who wanted to set up an eHarmony account to look for same-sex partners, and then refused to match them with each other.
This may just be a rumor, though.
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