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Don’t call yourself an anti contact MAP if
You work with or around children
You have children
You interact with/play with/befriend children
You let yourself be alone with and responsible for children

You seek out public spaces filled with children like playgrounds of schools.
You chat with minors online.

You can only call yourself an anti contact map if you do everything in your power to stay as far away from children as possible at all times.

Stop

Demanding the essentially impossible.
You’re literally no better than people of the past who decided mentally ill people with “scary” thoughts were better locked up in some asylum because they’re all “ticking time bombs.”
You’re a disgrace to the mental illness community in every way.
Also before you decide to forget how to read, no I never said being a MAP is a mental illness. It is a brain disorder, it is unchosen, it puts “scary” thoughts in our heads that we can’t remove but we can control our response to, because we are not ticking time bombs that need to be shoved in a dank cave somewhere for the comfort of mentally healthy people.


Why would hating pedos make me a disgrace to the mentally ill communities when we both agree that pedophilia isn’t a mental illness? Genuinely wondering—

I’m a pedophile, I also have trauma-born homicidal thoughts (and other mental illnesses). As someone who actually deals with this brain of mine every damn day, I’m pretty sure my take on how this is experienced is a hell of a lot more accurate than yours.

We do not want to be MAPs. We did not choose to be MAPs. Our brains are doing something a brain should not do, they are disordered.

A disorder and a disability are not the same thing. A disorder and a mental illness are not the same thing.

What they do have in common though, is that they’re all detrimental to the sufferer and sometimes those around them, they usually can’t be cured, and they should be medically treated so everybody can live happily and safely.

Telling us to do nearly impossible things like “never be near children” is just as shitty as telling anyone else with a brain issue that they should “never be near knives” (if they’re suicidal or have homicidal ideation), or “never go outside” (because people are afraid someone with psychosis is just waiting to snap and kill someone in a fit of paranoia), or “never date” (because they have bpd or aspd and could be abusive).

It’s complete bullshit to tell someone who is dedicated to living a non-violent life to just up and vanish because you don’t understand that every human being has free will and rape is a fucking choice.

P.S.

For the love of god use paragraph breaks. On mobile type < b > no spaces.



Holy fucking Christ though, absolutely no one have said that you aren’t allowed to go outside/walk past a child on the street - my list was specifically about ACTIVELY SEEKING OUT the company of minors which y'all definitely shouldn’t be doing due to your attractions and the risk that you might at some point act on them.

Walking past a playground on your way to work? Fine. Stopping to ogle at the kids? Not okay. Stopping to interact with the kids? Definitely not okay.

Visiting someone who has kids? Fine. Staring at their kids? Not okay. Interacting with their kids anymore than what common courtesy demands? Definitely not okay.

I’m not asking you to disappear from the face of earth (though things would be better down here if y'all pedos did) I’m simply saying that you should go out of your way not to seek out the company of children due to your sexual attraction to them and the risk connected with this attraction.

You work with or around children

This disqualifies working for food service, retail, entertainment, public transport, and public service. Those are only a few jobs I can think of where children will regularly be nearby and are now out of one’s ability to work. This severely limits one’s work options.

You have children

This assumes having a child is always a choice. This also assumes that it’s anywhere near normal for someone to be attracted to their own family. Adult parents aren’t attracted to their adult children, why would a MAP be?

You interact with/play with/befriend children

Now we’re banned from our own families. We can’t work anywhere, now we can’t go to the homes of family members, family events such as weddings and reunions. If a MAP is a minor they must avoid all of their peers and I guess move out and live on the street if they have younger siblings.

If a child is lost and asks for directions, we have to walk away. If a kid is clearly in distress, we’re not allowed to approach them to help, we have to just leave them there. If a toddler smiles at us because that’s just how kids are, we have to turn away (sending this friendly kid the idea that we dislike them and they’re not worth our time, something that harms the self esteem of children).

Adults and kids can’t be friends so that point is moot.

You let yourself be alone with and responsible for children

If your sister has to run to the hospital for an emergency and you’re the closest person there to watch her kids, fuck em. They can fend for themselves. Walk out and never return.

If you’re a parent, throw your children to the wolves of the state, a place where no one is ever abused at extremely high rates /s

You seek out public spaces filled with children like playgrounds of schools.

If you’re there for no reason yeah I agree this is weird.

You chat with minors online.

If you’re 18, you now cannot chat with your 16, 17yo high school friends. Sorry guys, I don’t make the absurd rules, this person does.

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