I've been living in a similar situation now for several years. My wife and I are divorced, but unlike your situation, we remained friends and stayed in contact. The whole time, in the back of my mind I was hoping and praying for reconciliation. I'd get my hopes up time and again only to have them dashed on the curbside. Finally, I told my wife, I'll be here when and if you are ever ready to work on fixing our marriage. She hasn't contacted me since. After the divorce I did fill out the paperwork for a petition of nullity. I prayed over it and told myself, "if this is the way it is supposed to be God, then your will be done." I had decided then and there to leave it to God and accept whatever the Church decided as far as the annulment went. A short time after I submitted the paperwork, I received my answer... there is no grounds to believe that the marriage is invalid. So, I remain married to a wife who has walked away from me, and the Church in order to "find herself" and pursue the "pleasures" of being single; this, after 20 years of marriage. I still wear my wedding band. I continue to be faithful and wait patiently for a miracle. Like you, most people believe that I have moved on. They’re wrong. What God has joined, no man can put asunder. Even men wearing black robes and banging gavels from a bench.