Re: Transbiancel complains that there's NO reason why he should be a "social pariah" in the lesbian meetups he's been attending for a year and a half
GCS Dr. Kathy Rumer
he he was talking about how the idea of being female has always been VERY arousing to him
You know what I'm pleasantly surprised about? This is one of the few cases where someone with that profile doesn't tell people "if you don't want to suck my girldick, you're transphobic" (also, you privileged cis scum, if you want to suck Feminine Benis, that's bad and horrible because it's "dehumanizing").
Ray Blanchard found that there are GAMP straight men who like breasts and a penis, but those men want a female-looking partner, not a brutish manly AGP 40-year-old. More to the point, the AGPs had way too much prenatal T to have sexual interest in said men. For example:
Riley Dennis: "if you don't want to date someone because they have a penis, you're transphobic!"
Men in the YouTube comments: "we'll date you, Riley!"
Riley Dennis: "ewww, I don't like men!"
I have a masculine face
Everyone knows that having a craggy male skull is sure to bring all the lesbians to the yard!
I'm smart, funny, and easy to talk to
My dear delusional Red, if those qualities controlled attraction, oppressed sexual minorities wouldn't even exist. Closeted gays and lesbians could just force themselves to be straight by finding an opposite-sex spouse who is "smart, funny and easy to talk to." Freddy Mercury tried that with Mary Austin.
People are mostly friendly, kind and engage socially
It's almost like people can't control what they are and aren't sexually attracted to, and it doesn't mean they're "bigots" or hate you.
>People are mostly friendly, kind and engage socially when I approach them
>I'm a social pariah, bawwwwww!
>I have a masculine face, why don't lesbians want to get any of that?
Full galaxy-brain definition of social pariah.
Lesbian meetups serve a few major functions:
For lesbians to hang out with women who get it, in a space where they can be honest about who they are. Straight women, even liberal ones, can be weird about friendships with lesbians. And social circles that are dominated by straight women tend to expand to include husbands or boyfriends (which isn't necessarily bad, but it's not the same as having an all-women space) and tend to involve a fair amount of talking about relationships with men.
For lesbians to meet potential sexual/romantic partners.
Did I mention meeting potential partners? Because that one's important.
Female homosexuals aren't going to see a heterosexual male, gender identity notwithstanding, as someone who shares their life experiences in the same way as a fellow lesbian. Nor are they going to see a heterosexual male as a potential girlfriend. OP is showing up to the Taco Lovers' Tacomania All-Taco Taco Fest with a platter of beef sausage.
The reality is that the woman-seeking-woman sections of all dating apps are full of MtF people and straight couples looking for a unicorn. The ideal solution would be better filters on these apps, but I doubt that's going to happen anytime soon and it's totally beyond your control.
If I were you, I'd be upfront and lowkey. For example:
I'm a trans woman looking for a summer fling, but very open to something more serious with the right woman. On weekdays, I'm a defense lawyer; on weekends, I'm a hiker, biker, kayaker, and amateur pastry chef (emphasis on the amateur).
Basically, avoid anti-TERF screeds and other gender politicking, don't try to bury the fact that you're trans in the small print, and don't go on about how you're a super lesby lesbian seeking a super lesby lesbian relationship with a fellow lesbian. Yes, a lot of the women using whatever app you're on will still roll their eyes and swipe left, but them's the breaks, for you and for them.
ETA: I also agree with u/FruitTreesRule's advice to you.
Lesbian spaces are meant for lesbians, so don't go there.
You can try catch-all dating apps/sites and indicate you are trans. Don't initiate to women who specify they are lesbian on their profiles since many lesbians are being coerced into "giving a chance" if they don't want to be labeled transphobic. Don't put a woman in that position.
Or you can just be social and engage in friend groups and see if you meet someone the old fashioned way, but again, don't try to initiate with lesbians. Seriously, it's equivalent to a "cis" man assuming he can hit on a lesbian. It's invasive and insulting and entitled.
Perhaps there is female out there who is open to gender non conforming men, who are hormones, who have breasts and a penis. But, honestly, not many women are into that.
That is your problem, not women's.
I suggest seeking out another trans male if you are open to that.
Probably shouldn't go to lesbian meetups if this "woman wannabe" is only interested in sleeping with them. Lesbians tend to sleep with other women.
"Transdar"= knows what a man in a dress looks like.
Let’s see, I know why lesbians aren’t interested. It’s because you’re male!!