I mean, if you kiss and hold hands and snuggle and whatever with a date, then how is that going to be special in marriage. It sets you up to become bored in marriage. What's to stop you from divorcing because the chemistry ends?
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I mean, if you kiss and hold hands and snuggle and whatever in your first year of marriage, then how is that going to be special in your second year of marriage? It sets you up to become bored after your first year of marriage. What's to stop you from divorcing because the chemistry ends?
This is why you should always try new things. Whips, chains, feather dusters, prostitutes... use your imagination.
My wife and I still hold hands. We've been together for 23 years and married for 20.
Marriage is not a kind of fun park when you'll have sex or sexual intimacy. It's a compromise that you do with the right person who, by the way, doesn't have to be the first one you date. And besides, the same can be said with widows or divorcees.
What's wrong with getting a divorce because there's no more chemistry? Sure beats years of bored, resentment, and frustration.
And if you don't snuggle before marriage...aren't you just about fucked if your partner turns out to be a lousy snuggler?
If you cook for your date, see movies together, gaze at the stars together, actually look each other in the eyes, then how is that going to be special in marriage? Better just have an arranged marriage, then the contempt and revulsion you might have for each other can be special, too.
You've never had a significant other have you?
Yes, marriage is hard work, but snuggling never gets old.
Boredom in marriage is going to happen anyway. Whether you touched each other or not prior to marriage has exactly zilch to do with it.
Successful couples learn to deal with it, either by doing things to add spice to the relationship, or by finding other things to do. Maybe you should look at what long-term couples are doing and try to emulate them, instead of relying strictly on what your pastor tells you.
NEWSFLASH, Boogle! Quite often the chemistry between two people ends. It's a natural freaking thing. This is why people DO get divorced. The clear and level-headed solution to that is NOT TO GET MARRIED. Be with your partner because you want to be with him/her, not because you have a contract binding you.
I think you have it backwards. You can't know if the chemistry will last if you never test it. Aside from that, kissing, holding hands, snuggling..? I thought you guys just couldn't fuck before marriage!
"kiss and hold hands and snuggle and whatever "?!
In the words of Seinfeld, you yadda-yadda-yadda'd over the best part!
So, what exactly are we supposed to do, marry at random with someone we have never met before?
I'm not saying no, mind you.
If you DON'T kiss and hold hands and snuggle and whatever with a date, how do you know that there IS chemistry? Besides, "traditional marriage" was mostly about connecting farms and acquiring a brood mare; no chemistry required at all.
I've been together with my husband for 26 years; we've been married 16 years. Why do things have to be "special in marriage"? We married to be sure we would inherit each other and a few other legal benefits, and, of course, to have a party, once we were financially able to have one. (Parents here might help pay for the party, but the couple in question are expected to pay for most of it themselves.)
Chemistry surely hasn't ended yet, and neither of us is bored.
“I mean, if you kiss and hold hands and snuggle and whatever with a date, then how is that going to be special in marriage.”
"It sets you up to become bored in marriage”
“What's to stop you from divorcing because the chemistry ends?”
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