You are on a feminist website to convince us women into believing that males are women, and that male violence against other males should be another problem that we need to fix for them. This is gaslighting, a form of abuse by your own definition.
I've said this before, but it bears repeating: According to the CDC, our biggest killers and abusers are male, yet you're here on a feminist website claiming that males are the real victims. If you want to turn it into a yearbook superlative for "most murdered," or "most abused" status, go ahead. But the fact is that females are clearly not safe around males, even the ones that wear lipstick. This article, in which the author documents the violence and threats that she's experienced at the hands of transgender-identified males, is proof of that.
If you sincerely believe male sorrow over their internalized experience of gender could ever literally turn a male into a woman, then I'm afraid you may be too indoctrinated to be of much use to the feminist organizations that you say you work for. Try making females a priority in your feminist activism again, then we'll talk.