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A Reader #fundie createdtobehishelpmeet.org

In your book “Created to be His Help Meet,” you touched on one topic in one chapter, and I wonder if you have any further writings on it. It is in regard to inappropriate friendships between married women. I’ve noticed that in some friendships with other wives, they seem to have higher expectations of me emotionally than I am able to meet, to the extent that there has been a “break-up” when I can’t or won’t go any further in emotional closeness. It is very strange. I see wives drawn and encouraged to commit emotional adultery with other women, usually because they have told each other that their husbands are not equipped to meet all of their emotional needs; so form these emotional attachments that are beyond normal friendship. It would seem that they are betraying the intimacy they should have with their husbands by this type of friendship. What are your thoughts on this? ”
~ A Reader

Debi answers:
This type of emotional relationship between women is a facet of homosexuality. It is UGLY, filthy, and an unclean abomination. Break all such relationships off now, and consider yourself fortunate to have escaped.”

E. W. #fundie createdtobehishelpmeet.org

I just wanted to write a note to let you know what a blessing your book has been. Months ago my mind was made up to file for a divorce. I was sure that I could live with out my husband and that my girls would be better off with out him for a father. His marijuana use, pornography addiction, pathological lying, and non-support of us had me convinced of it. I was in the process of filing the divorce papers, a couple days before that, my mother gave me “Created to be His Help Meet” and I began reading it. I decided that being a "Christian" woman it was worth while to at least try the Bible's way. I've tried every other way, even followed pastor's advice, my parent's advice, etc., etc., etc, all with the same end result: file for divorce. After reading your book I realized for the first time that God's way is for me to love, respect, honor, and OBEY, no matter what. I now realize that my husband may never change, but that's not what’s important...God wants me to change. For the first time in my 3 years of marriage, I have peace. Right now he lives in another state, with the goal of buying a home and moving the rest of us in with him as soon as possible. All though I only get to talk to him by phone, my whole demeanor and attitude towards him has changed and we have finally stopped fighting. It's been amazing! I finally have a realistic idea of what God created me to be. Thanks for writing such a wonderful book and teaching us younger women. .

Reader/Debi #fundie createdtobehishelpmeet.org

“ In your book “Created to be His Help Meet,” you touched on one topic in one chapter, and I wonder if you have any further writings on it. It is in regard to inappropriate friendships between married women. I’ve noticed that in some friendships with other wives, they seem to have higher expectations of me emotionally than I am able to meet, to the extent that there has been a “break-up” when I can’t or won’t go any further in emotional closeness. It is very strange. I see wives drawn and encouraged to commit emotional adultery with other women, usually because they have told each other that their husbands are not equipped to meet all of their emotional needs; so form these emotional attachments that are beyond normal friendship. It would seem that they are betraying the intimacy they should have with their husbands by this type of friendship. What are your thoughts on this? ”
~ A Reader

Debi answers:
This type of emotional relationship between women is a facet of homosexuality. It is UGLY, filthy, and an unclean abomination. Break all such relationships off now, and consider yourself fortunate to have escaped.”

Kathleen #fundie createdtobehishelpmeet.org

“WOW! Created to be His Help Meet is by far the best book (outside of the Bible, of course) that I have ever read on being a wife and mother, and I sure have read a bunch of them! Thank you, thank you, thank you for taking the time to write this book. My husband wants to submit a top ten list - the top 10 indications you know your wife got the new Debi Pearl book.(wink). For example, you know your wife has read the book if she is wanting to make love twice in a day!!”

S #fundie createdtobehishelpmeet.org

“Received your book ‘Created to be his Help Meet’ and have let the Lord give me a grateful heart towards my ‘Steady’ man. I just told my mom the other day about this book, and that I could no longer talk negatively about my husband. After 2 days of a changed attitude, he went and bought me a brand-new vacuum cleaner, even though I was willing to take a secondhand one. I was tickled pink! I am very thankful that the Lord has given me a chance, and has put a woman like you to teach us younger women. In fact, I am so grateful, that yesterday I wept!”
~ S

Lois #fundie createdtobehishelpmeet.org

“I’m currently going through ‘Created to be His Help Meet’ the second time. Recently, we received a phone call from a lady taking a survey on local businesses. She asked if I was ‘a head of household.’ I smiled and told her, ‘No, my husband is.’ She insisted, ‘Well, you are one of the heads of household.’ I laughed out loud. A month ago, I might have agreed with her, but tonight her comment brought to mind the picture of a two-headed dragon. Both heads were trying to go in a difference direction, so, getting frustrated, each began blowing flames and scorching the other’s head. I thought about how odd it is that we even consider a two-headed household as normal. I mean, if we saw a two-headed sheep standing out in the field, we’d rightly think, ‘There is something terribly wrong with that!’ Our society is full of two-headed monsters. It’s good to be on the outside. Eventually, I might have figured this out on my own, but I’m glad to have had the privilege of being taught by Debi to be a proper help meet and keeper of my home!”