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[I’m in an Abusive Living Situation

Caller: I actually live in an abusive living situation right now and I’m trying to do everything I can where I can get out of it. I have about a little over $4,000 saved up. I do have debt that I did want to pay off but I really can’t concentrate on that right now. I lost my job about two months ago. I haven’t been able to find full time work. I’ve been doing odd jobs here and there every chance I can. I just want to know what you would do in my situation—
Dave: You said you have $4,000.
Caller: Yeah.
Dave: You said you are in an abusive situation. What do you mean? Do you mean you’re being hit?
Caller: Yeah. Hit and verbally abusive.
Dave: Do you have children?
Caller: No, I don’t. I’m single.
Dave: You have $4,000. Pack your suitcase and leave there right now. Why would stay ten minutes?
Caller: Because I can’t afford—
Dave: Yes you can. You have $4,000. He’s going to kill you. ]

This lady’s story has a twist that you probably were not expecting. I’ll let you watch the entire video to hear what’s really happening.
I hear this quite often from feminists online, especially when they make excuses regarding abortion: “getting out of an abusive relationship is not easy.”
Yes it is.

Humans are born with a fight or flight response. When you are being intentionally attacked or injured, you either stand your ground or you run away. Sticking around to repeatedly be assaulted is not a rational or instinctive option.
When they say “but getting out of an abusive relationship is difficult,” you are making an excuse. Plain and simple. Perhaps, leaving someone that you are in a relationship with is not technically simple, but life is not supposed to be simple. Everyone has a breaking point. So, if you are honestly being severely abused, injured or raped, then you have every right to escape the situation at all costs. You need to escape the situation no matter what barriers, may they be physical, emotional, or financial, are in your way.
Living under a cold bridge is a better alternative to living with an abusive spouse or family member. And if you have children, your responsibility to leave that relationship increases twice as much for every child that you have. And there is help out there; you just have to take the responsible step to actually pursue it.

[ I— I can’t even explain how wrong this is. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, getting out of an abusive relationship is NOT “that easy”. It is NOT just a matter of packing up your stuff and leaving. Getting out of an abusive relationship means convincing yourself that they’re wrong, that you aren’t worthless, that you deserve more than this even when they’re screaming the exact opposite of that in your face every day. Surviving an abusive relationship takes more courage than the dipshit who posted this will ever have. - The daughter of a survivor
Also daughter the survivor here to tell you please roll into a bed of ants after you pour gasoline all over yourself and set yourself on fire, bitch. You don’t get to say a word about this because it’s MEN LIKE YOU that do the fucking abusing. I want to see your CHICKEN SHIT ASS WALK OUT OF A FUCKING ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVED MOTHERFUCKER ]

You’re both right. I mean, women are just powerless, feeble creatures who can’t make common sense decisions when their lives are at stake and men, like me, are all just abusive brutes. We couldn’t possibly understand what’s it’s like.
Talk about permanent victim psychosis. No one said getting over any relationship is emotionally easy, but if you or your children are getting abused, especially physically, walking away is easier than you know. There are people that can help. Just saying “it’s hard” is a cowardly cop out and is justifying irrational, careless behavior. Sadly, you were probably taught this unintentionally.
Also, neither of you clowns know anything about me or my background, so I’d keep your lazy assumptions to yourself.

redbloodedamerica #fundie redbloodedamerica.tumblr.com

[The holocaust was legal, slavery was legal, segregation was legal. If you use the state as a metric for ethics you'll end up disappointed" It sounds to me like you're taking the side of the police state. Seriously how can you say that he was alive in that video. How can you be blind to the fact that the police killed a man in cold blood that day? When was the last time you looked at a black man? Did he have his eyes rolled back in his head? Was he lying on the ground, motionless and loosing body heat? What’s more is I don’t understand why you’re defending them. Aren’t Libertarians supposed to be against the police state? “Paying taxes under the threat of the gun”??? There are surveillance vans going around scrambling cellphone signals and intercepting calls in american streets because of these protests, Big Brother style. There are Nazis and KKK flocking to Ferguson. There’s more fucking nazis in america than there are in Germany for Christ sake. This is the america you support.]

I’m not going to keep repeating the facts to you about Eric Garner. You cannot judge whether he was alive or not by watching a video. I’m sorry. I’m also not going to entertain the ludicrous notion that there are more Nazis in America today compared to Nazis Germany or more KKK today than half a century ago. That’s simply not true.

Not to get into the actual accuracy of whether the holocaust was actually “legal” or not; you cannot base the state as a metric for ethics, but you must obey and enforce the laws whether they are ethical or not in a democratic republic. I believe the individual mandate in the Affordable Care Act is the most unethical law created since the Black Codes, yet I must abide by this law either way.

There is no police state in the United States either. People that say that have no idea what a real police state looks like. What we have are laws created and enforced by politicians that are democratically elected. These laws are not arbitrary and therefore must be carried out as written.

I’m not sure if you are a liberal or what, but this is precisely why libertarians are against more laws and more government intervention into our lives. If you are the type of individual that keeps voting in statist politicians like Michael Bloomberg, Bill de Blasio, Barack Obama, etc who encourage creating more laws, more bureaucracy, more illegal executive orders, more government programs, and more taxes, you are creating your own problems. These are the unethical characters that are creating these laws you disagree with. The police are merely enforcing them.

Eric Garner was a victim of a bad law. He chose to break the law and therefore broke his social contract in this civil society. He ended up paying the ultimate price by resisting arrest. That was his choice though. You cannot beg for all this big government intervention and then choose not to obey the ones you personally do not agree with. That’s not how a society works. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. You can have liberty or you can have big controlling government. Which will it be?

The majority of the people of New York City chose Bloomberg to represent their wishes in government and in doing so must accept his terrible nanny state laws. If you want to fix the system, you must keep these liberal politicians out of office and start putting more libertarian or conservative ones in that want to repeal or end big government programs. Otherwise, you’re just going to keep perpetuating this system of your own oppression

redbloodedamerica #fundie redbloodedamerica.tumblr.com

[your forcing upon an unwanted child? What about failed contraception? What about accidental pregnancy? What about illnesses which are “scientifically proven” to be triggered and/or caused by pregnancy?What about the physical and mental changes the woman has to go through? May I also point out that not all women have easy pregnancies, supportive families and partners, decent income, health insurance (to where it concerns)]

• [“What about girls who are raped?”]
I’m not Catholic, but I believe they have a very sensible and ethical procedure to handle cases of rape. Rape is no excuse to kill a human. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

• [“What about women physically unable to follow through with pregnancy?”]

Women who are physically unable to follow through with pregnancy should not get pregnant to begin with. Use birth control. Get a tubectomy. Consult a doctor. Don’t rush into an abortion. There are options that pro-choicers tend to neglect to mention.

• [“What about women in abusive relationships?”]
If you’re in an abusive relationship—get out of it. This isn’t rocket science. I don’t know what an abusive relationship has to do with abortion. Are you saying that a woman isn’t capable to raise a child on their own?

• [“What about people living in poverty?”]
Poverty also has nothing to do with abortion—well, unless you’re into eugenics. The last time I checked, their are plenty of children living in poverty today. Keyword: living.

• “What about the unanswered questions your forcing upon an unwanted child?”
I’m not totally sure what you were trying to say here but there is no such thing as an “unwanted child.” That’s a terrible term thrown around by terrible people. There is always someone willing to adopt a child, even one that is disabled. For example we have people in this country that are smuggling children in from other countries:

•[ “What about failed contraception? What about accidental pregnancy?”]

An accidental pregnancy is not the child’s fault, is it? Trying to justify murder for your own mistakes is like a bank robber justifying killing a police officer because they were caught stealing.

• [“What about illnesses which are “scientifically proven” to be triggered and/or caused by pregnancy?”]

Again, see the Dr. Koop quote above. Talk to your doctor about the risks of the possible risks of pregnancy. Otherwise, use birth control or get a tubectomy. Be personally responsible for your actions. Sex is fun but it’s not a game.

• [“What about the physical and mental changes the woman has to go through?”]
No offense, but tough shit. We’re grasping at straws here.

• [“May I also point out that not all women have easy pregnancies, supportive families and partners, decent income, health insurance (to where it concerns)”]
Despite your myriad list of excuses, it all boils down to personal responsibility (other than in the small case of rape). There’s really no good justification to murder an innocent, unborn child. It’s neither logical nor moral.]