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@dean-the-map Paedophilia is not a sexuality. It’s a fetish.
If you’re as “anti-contact” as you claim, you would not put yourself in any situation where you’re near a child, especially any situation where you’d be alone with children.
Some people are addicted to alcohol, know how bad it is, would never want to touch a drop but it still wouldn’t be a good idea to work behind a bar, because that temptation is still there. They might be fine working in a bar for a while. They might think that they’re in zero danger. But all it takes is one slip.
Children need to be protected. You might be able to attempt to argue that you’re there, working with children because you want to protect them, but the truth is that you’re deliberately tempting yourself. You admit to being attracted to some of the children under your care.
This isn’t like working any job and finding a customer/patient/etc attractive, but you just ignore it because acting on it would be unprofessional. Children can be very easily groomed. They don’t have the understanding that adults have to say no or protect themselves if you end up doing something that you’ll regret.
I am very much of the mind that paedophiles have a mental disorder, and should be treated so that they never harm a child and can still live a full life. But what you’re doing here is wrong. And your claim that being attracted to children is a “sexuality” is entirely wrong, too.
If you care about children as much as you say you do, if you really want to protect them, you should be protecting them from yourself, first.
No, it’s not a fetish, it describes the type of people towards whom my sexuality is oriented, hence a sexual orientation. It functions the same as any other sexual orientation.
That’s not what anti-contact means, but of course you don’t care what it actually means.
Addiction and attraction are not comparable. Being non-offending is the easy part of being a MAP.
I’m not tempted at all though. How often are you tempted to rape someone?
To act on my attractions wouldn’t just be unprofessional, it would cause harm to another person, it would be rape. Not raping people is really easy.
I disagree, I believe paedophilia is best described as a sexual orientation (and the current scientific consensus is in agreement). Paedophilia can’t be changed or cured and it doesn’t inherently make someone more likely to harm a child. On it’s own it requires no treatment. Paedophiles should be able to get treatment though if they are distressed by their attraction or are at risk of acting on it.
Or maybe I should be protecting them from people that actually want to harm them.