[Quotes from an appearance on the Dr. Phil show discussing the new trend of Purity and Viginity pledges, parties and balls. Two of his daughters appeared on the show with these things to say about their father, the creater of Father Daughter Purity Ball.]
"Randy's 19-year-old daughter, Khrystian, wholeheartedly embraces virginity. "This culture is not my standard; my father is my standard because he tells me who I am to be in life," she says."
"Jordyn, Randy's 18-year-old daughter, says, "Just the other night, he was holding me before I went to bed, and I was like, "Daddy, can you tell me I'm beautiful and brilliant?' Because I need to hear that, and he tells me that all the time."
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See, I've no problem with people wanting to stay chaste until marriage, may even consider it myself; but for the love of God, a girl's sexuality is not the property of her father! Jesus, these crazy fucks really do think they own women, don't they?
So, now we have two fundies named Randy who seem to be randy for teenage girls.
Parents, don't name your children Randy! Or, for that matter, Khrystian or Jordyn!
Where are the young men doing this, huh? Why are women always on the losing end of a double standard?
Also, Khrystian? What the FUCK? I hate those idiotic kre8tiv names.
And...that last bit is just creepy.
Fuck this noise.
There are so many weirdo quotes in this transcript:
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"Our oldest daughter was married in December of last year," Randy says.
"How old?" Dr. Phil asks.
When Randy replies that his daughter was 22, Dr. Phil says, "And she had her first kiss at the altar?"
"That's right," Randy says proudly.---
Attraction to teenagers isn't pedophilia, it's ephebophilia. And in any case, these women aren't adolescents, they are adults.
"Daddy Knows Best" award?
This is some seriously creepy material. These girls have no free will, they're indoctrinated into believing they're property, the father apparently has this weird emotional (if not physical) incest thing going, and nobody on the show seems to see what's wrong with it!
Well, this father is against sex education as it, "really diminishes these things. My goodness, we can't get away from the sexualized culture that we live in..."
So I would assume that maybe they get an Ikea type manual on their wedding night along with the chastity belt key?
Okay, all the other sickness of this stuff aside (and there is lots of it- this post made me feel sick to my stomach), I have one simple question:
Why are no "Christians" demanding purity pledges from their sons ? The Bible is very, very specific in that neither males nor females are supposed to fornicate. Indeed, in places it seems to place an even higher standard of purity on men than women.
Why are they worried about their daughters' virginity but are giving their sons free reign? That is a Biblically unsound hypocrisy that I have not yet heard one purity pledger answer for.
I'm saddened by people's reactions! Has our society lack of values dried up so much that people can not even recognize that a father and a daughter's relationship can be clean and loving and respectful of each other...... without having to think about the most unmentionable act of disrespect?
Many reactions are stemmed from an unconcious realization of what they have missed all their lives. And by the way, there are a lot of more weird names than those that are being criticized here.
The day someone is positive, kind and loving towards the people commenting here will be the day these people will begin to understand what they have missed ..... and hopefully will be able to start re-building their lifes so the CAN give that connection of trust to their own children.
That has got to be the creepiest thing I;ve ever read on here, and that's saying something.
I think I just threw up a little in my outh.
Where to start...
Do any of you KNOW the Wilson family? Have you ever talked to them? Have you ever laughed with them? NO. You haven't. How can you take two sentences from an ENTIRE section of the show and slaughter them with your comments? Yeah, I know...what they're doing is "out" there and doesn't hold a prominent place in today's society, but COME ON! At LEAST do your research! If you disagree with them, that's fine...but don't just jump to conclusions! I know the Wilson family personally- I have now for about 5 years and I WILL stick up for them. Randy is a respectable man and loving father who honors God in every area of His life. And his daughters...are my friends. They're not weird, they're not controlled, and they're NOT perfect. Nobody is. They're human...just like ALL of us.
Oh...
and don't give me "it's a form of child abuse to give them those names"
Please...I heard of a woman who named her daughter "Placenta"....yeah....THATS child abuse...not Khrystian or Jordyn.
wow. just wow.
i just watched 'purity balls' on tlc and i don't even know what to think of it.
their second oldest daughter is now engaged at 20 yrs old.
20?! they're still teenagers.
i don't understand.
is that what these girls are living for? to get married at a young age? holy hell, welcome to 1954.
I'm a licensed marriage & family therapist and clinical psychologist who happens to be a Christian (I'm a rare breed) and I have to say...this method of courtship is VERY unhealthy. The natural course of 'coupling' in mate selection is a natural healthy part of the socio-emotional and psychological development of the adolescent female. Interpretation: if these girls don't learn the dynamics of 'relationship' prior to engaging in one...THEY WILL FAIL. I see it all the time. Interestingly enough, I see it more in family like this than any other. My goodness...it's one thing to have a standard for your children. It's another thing all together to set them up to see everyone as a miserable failure. NO MAN could live up to the standard this father has set. If you haven't seen the TLC documentary...google it. It's called "Purity Balls".
As I recall there was a group in Jesus' time that put great stock in purity. They even took a name that came from the term, "the pure ones." They were the Pharisees, and as I recall Jesus was not impressed with them.
From what I have heard, a lot of time and money gets spent in creating Purity Balls. It seems that, instead of squandering these resources in celebrating their "purity," the participants might find a better use for them. Using their time and money to care for the poor and afflicted would be far more in line with what Jesus taught in the gospels.
But then, that's the great thing about being a fundamentalist, isn't it? When Jesus conflicts with your good time, you can just throw his name around and ignore his actual teachings.
What pro-didgeeous balls he had,
parties and banquets and balls...
parties and banquets
and banquets and parties and balls, balls, balls.
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@Laurel
Nobody's mentioned the most disturbing child abuse aspect of this one yet: he named his daughter Khrystian. Khrystian. I just can't get over it.
"MIS tah ChrisTIAN!? Com heah!"_______C. Laughton as Capt. Bligh
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BTW, I see naming a kid Khrystian is a little towards the weird side, but not much more than Christine, or Chris. And Jordyn? Israel, Georgia, etc. Besides,lots of people have biblical names and it probably doesn't mess them up too much. Around here a large percentage of the male population is named Jesus. They often go by Jesse or Chuy.
Or Flaco, Homes, Loco, Pachuco, etc.
pffft brainwashing your children into wanting to be virgins isn't that flash, i'd be more impressed if he brainwashed them into thinking they're chickens plus it would be much more amusing.
"Daddy can you tell me my plumage is brightest and my wattle isn't too fat"
"Do you know them?" whine the fundies, desperately trying to defend their sexism, pedophilia and general evil. And the armchair psychologist on the last page, with her "you're all just abused children who can't understand love", can fuck right off. In the words of her co-religionists, do you know me?
No?
Then fuck off and take your condescending woman-hate with you. The day you treat your sons this way is the day I might believe your sincerity... but we both know that will never happen.
I thought Christian and Jordan were male names. Well, Jordan might be a unisex name...
No matter how many y's you put in, these are still the pronunciations of those names.
If you want to stay a virgin until a specified time in life, fine. As long as it's YOUR decision, that is. You are just as pure regardless of whether you've been with a woman or man, though.
Would this Randy-boy be just as engaged in this if it was a Father Son Purity Ball? Are these women looking for "pure" men?
If your daddy tells you all them time that you are beautiful and brilliant, then you probably are, at least in his eyes. Why do you NEED to hear it all the time? Isn't narcissism a sin?
Confused?
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