You have mentioned that you were raised in a Christian home. Again, my answer is that it was most likely a legalistic and harshly ruled, hypocritical environment. There is a difference between true Orthodox Christianity and harsh legalism in so-called Christianity. Legalistic Christianity will produce any number of sexual deviant expressions whether it be homosexuality, bisexuality, transgenders, or someone like J Duggar who is driven by lust for the opposite sex. Our sexuality can take many wrong turns and that is why the Bible proscribes sexual expression between a man and a woman within the bounds of marriage. It is healthy and there is no possibility of STD's. All people, whether or not they're married must exercise self control. It's what makes for a healthy society.