The only sperm that God authorizes a woman to voluntarily put into her body is that of her own husband’s. To seek out the sperm of other men from any source is a violation of His moral code. If your husband was disappointed by your infertility, does that mean he should get to go sleep with some sexy stranger to make up for it? Of course not. In the same way, it is totally unacceptable for you to go and try to collect the physical benefits of sleeping with another man simply because you and your husband are unable to have children. If you’re not even married, then you really have no justification for trying to get pregnant. To try and force a child into a fatherless home just because you’re in a hurry to be a mother is utterly selfish.

With the world cooking up so many ways to blow off God’s moral code, it’s easy to think that there could be some room for compromise in this area. But there’s not. The fact that God is blocking you from having children through moral channels does not mean He is authorizing you to start sleeping around—and that is essentially what you are doing, even though you are skipping the physical bonding part and going straight for the end result. Let’s be honest: seeking out sperm donations is about trying to force God to give us children. Our motivations are wrong, our methods are wrong, and the whole package is going to have very negative spiritual ramifications.