I have had to settle for now with speaking up when there is a chance that a reader who is REALLY struggling with the idea (and headed toward suicide because of it) might need to hear a little grace.
Just stop with the stupid emoting. If you really want to stop gays from killing themselves, then force them back in the closet and drive home how unacceptable the behavior is.
They tend to kill themselves out of guilt and shame for their ACTIONS. No one feels guilt and shame for successfully resisting temptation. So, anything you do to help them continue wallowing in their behavior is going to increase the amount of suicide.
Face it. The real basis of your argument is that you are a woman and you hate to make people feel bad. Which is both normal and fine, but stop dressing it up in logically backwards appeals to possible suicide.