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Thank you! About time we had you admitting you
agreed with the mysogyny that is being spouted and
this is why you're having trouble understanding
this!
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...Ooooooooohhh... I think I know what you're getting at now. At first, I read that, and I couldn't figure out whatsoever: "...WHAT? Why in the world is he saying that I agree with misogyny?!" And then when I said, "He condemns it," I didn't think it needed any clarification until you said:
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[1] - PRECISELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He condemns it. That is the problem.
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Not because you're saying that misogyny is not bad, but because you're saying that exhorting wives to not be fat, lazy, etc., is inherently misogynistic. Julian, you and I are looking at this from two different perspectives, and that's what's causing confusion. I'm not saying women shouldn't be fat or la-- well, they shouldn't be lazy--really, no one should. But being fat can be genetic. It can also be a result of lack of proper nutritional habits and lack of sufficient exercise. But what Mark attacks in this short paragraph is not women who are not beautiful or who are not thin or who are not whatever else. He attacks (okay, I'm using "attack" in a very broad sense, but just because you used it first) Christian women who are selfish in the marriage, who couldn't care less what the husband thinks. That is not condusive to any good marriage. In essence, he's attacking those who don't care about the health of the relationship (the woman just happens to be featured in only one of the thirteen paragraphs, the other twelve being about the man).
I see what you're getting at with the rest of what you've said, and it's nowhere near where I was going with the topic. The main thing I think we disagree on is Mark's intent in writing what he did in this paragraph. I view as nothing more than this: That pastors are not to go alone bearing the burden of keeping a marriage relationship healthy on account of just being a pastor, and that their wives should be equally concerned about having "satisfying, free, sexual conversations and liberties"--and not to be careless or selfish about it or despise such with their husbands. Whereas I gather from what you wrote that you view it as nothing more than this: That Mark views women who decide to be less than in their prime for their husbands as objects for nothing more than the pleasure of their husbands and that the woman ought to be partially to blame for the man leaving her on account of her not staying sexually pleasing to him--that women stay beautiful out of fear that the man will be justified in leaving her. Am I accurate in my conclusion?
If what I said is accurate, then you would be right if Mark were not a Christian. As I said in his defense earlier, Mark is clearly not the definition of fundamentalist, and he's more honest than to insert some deception in his writing. In other words, if you're reading misogyny in his writing, I'd say you're looking too hard to find it.
I'll answer one last objection, which sums up my point of this comment:
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[3] And here we get into objectification. All he
mentions about women and their relationships is
they should look good and put out.
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Not that they should look good and put out, out of fear for the relationship being terminated--but that they should not look bad out of laziness and selfishness on anyone's part. Yes, I avoided saying "woman's" part, because taking care of the relationship is the duty of both the husband and wife. If genders were switched as far as what happened in the national news story, I could likely offer a guarantee that Mark would have written a similar article, because the principle still remains.
It's quarter past 1 in the morning, and I'm tired. I'd rather not go into more of this, if it's all right with you, because I don't think much more can be accomplished. That is, I've said all I determined to say regarding this quote--that being that it was not submitted with the most honest of intentions, instead being seen as an opportunity to slander someone's good name and good intentions on what I viewed as dishonest grounds.