Submitters note: See here for section 1: Incel misconceptions

Many misconceptions among both incels and normies here, explained

Normie misconceptions:

Just get a hooker : Inceldom is about being unwanted. 70% of the point of having sex is the validation, the fact you are being desired. Paying someone for sex doesn't make the cut.

Inceldom is just lack of sex : Inceldom is much more than lack of sex. Is being a genetical inferior human being who nature doomed from birth to failure. Inceldom affects EVERY part of your life beacause looks permeate into everything. Nature hardwired humans to discriminate, shun and hate unattractive people in every area of life, not only dating. Inceldom is about suffering the bad side of genetic determinism. Lack of sex is just a byproduct (the most noticeable) of all this.

Being bitter and misogynistic is what keeps you incel : wrong. Being ugly is what keeps you incel. Many many many guys are openly misogynistic irl in front of girls and yet they drown in validation anyways because they are good looking. Also do you think most incels here act the same way irl? You have to be deluded to think like that. Incel does not mean retarded. In fact most incels that are bitter and misogynistic were not that way before: its what happens afters years and years of negative reinforcement and rejection while suposedly doing everything right.

its your fault you are incel : No. Nature made humans so they are BORN to win or lose in life. 70% of your life is predetermined at birth, genetic determinism is real. Winners of the genetic lottery have to in fact make an effort to fail in life. Losers of the genetic lottery will get things fucked up for the slighest silly mistake. People are NOT born equal. Genes are everything. Nature is an evil concept.

You are a lazy bum that doesnt care to improve himself : And whats the motivation of working so hard to achieve only a fraction of what genetic lottery winners get without ANY effort? Where is the motivation when you know that a genetic lottery winner can in fact work hard too and make the hard work of the loser seem worthless in comparison? Where is the fairness? Also many many people are just beyond salvation. If you are ugly, no amount of hard work/styling/improvement/personality will save you. Most of the crucial things in a man to be attractive to girls (and society in gneeral) are the genetic ones, the ones which can't be self improved.

you are whiny/deal with it : Unfairness is one of the worst things there are. So now complaining about privileges given at birth (genes) that change completely your life is whining? I saw stories of guys who were good looking kids and led happy lives, being popular, well liked and having healthy social circle. Suddenly puberty kicked in with bad genes and they became incel/ugly and their lives turned upside down: from popular to rejected, bullied, loners. And no its not that they freaked out for being ugly: they didnt know their looks to begin with and all of them reported wondering what the fuck happend to get a so radical change in how they were treated, until years and years later they discovered it was just their looks after puberty.

women are subjected to stupid standards too : The only shaming about women is slut shaming, and nowadays its not acceptable anymore, just like fat shaming. But bald shaming, short shaming, smallpenis shaming, uglyshaming (funny that all shaming in women are things they can change, all shaming in men are things that arent under their control and are genetic) is still pretty accepted and not taboo like fat shaming or slut shaming. Don't tell me women have it as hard as men because its a freaking lie. Also personality wise: women can be upfront and social or shy and still be attractive. Shyness is unattractive in men. Women can have a strong or vulnerable personality and still be attractive. Vulnerable personality is unattractive in men. Even personality wise, men have much fewer ways to be attractive (this is all considering looks level is the same)