And, of course, there are examples of such people who have changed from being gay to straight. I'd be interested to know whether that was, perhaps, the influence of peer pressure when young making them believe that they were gay - because they weren't interested in girls when they were growing up (perhaps they were 'too' interested in non-sexual activites - such as sport - and were judged to be gay by a society that is overly sexualised).
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Or, more likely, they're being pressured by people they know, directly or not, into pretending to be straight.
There are examples of such people who have been attracted to both men and women.
If someone doesn't show attraction to women, they are not judged to be attracted to men by default, they're probably just seen as not very interested at the moment. There is the option of asexual too, ya know.
I have two LGBT kids. They chose to come out as suck, not to be gay. In fact, one is transgender and pansexual. The other,a girl, hit puberty and only has interest in other girls. There is no choice. I'm attracted to people I wish I wasn't, but I don't act on it. At all. THAT is the only choice in sexuality.
@Oxymoron's Razor explained it quite well. Use a little logic, Hope: gays have been ostracized and reviled and mistreated very badly if they dare to open the closet door. That's an enormous pressure to "go along" with straight society, even to the point that people suppress their urges for their entire lives. That is unutterably sad. There is no reward for someone to "decide" to be gay. People would only undergo that if they knew, deep down, that it was the only way for them.
And, of course, there are examples of such people who have changed from being gay to straight.... ....They ALL live in my butt and I'll pull 'em out right now! *yanks off pants & reaches into bumhole*
"And, of course, there are examples of such people who have changed from being gay to straight"
Along with the examples of people who changed from being white to being black.
I'd be interested to know whether that was, perhaps, the influence of peer pressure when young making them believe that they were gay
More like peer pressure to forces a gay person straight.
No one is pressured to be gay. Nor is being gay a fashionable thing.
The reverse, however, is very true.
Sexuality is more fluid and circumstantial than we give it credit for at times. I struggled for years to figure out if I was lesbian or bisexual. Now that I'm closer to being middle age than underage, I identify as a lesbian but still occasionally find myself sexually attracted to men (most of the time it's when I'm ovulating so there seems to be a hormonal aspect to it)
However, the simplest explanation is usually the correct one and it seems very simple to me that someone who is gay and out but suffers from greater-than-expected backlash may attempt to put themselves back in the closet. This isn't a change from gay to straight, but rather a change from out to closeted.
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