You don't want to obey a man? How about your don't get married. No man forces his wife to do anything and can call himself a good Muslim. Good Muslim husbands ensure their wife is cared for and she doesn't go against Islam. Islam says a woman shouldn't travel without a mahram, so your husband and you would be sinning if you decided to do that and he allowed it to happen. As for not working, you'll find a lot of men, this includes myself don't want our wives working because we feel it's our duty and ours alone to earn the income and the woman doesn't need. Another reason would be because og the working environment being mixed, we don't want our wives in and amongst men.

Your view of marriage is not healthy.

An obediant wife is one, who will listen and understand what the husband wants. An obedient wife will also realise her duty comes to Allah first then next her husband. A husband being the head of the household has all responsibility on his shoulders, he will be held accountable if his house is in tatters.

If you don't want to obey or listen to your husband, don't get married. With the attitude you have, I doubt any Muslim man would want to marry you anyway.