Psycho Tits’ Guide for InCels
(NOTE: This response is geared toward heterosexuals who identify as "incel.")
Incels are, to put it bluntly, people who want sex but are having a difficult time finding a sexual partner.
Some incels want long-term relationships whereas others sniff after anonymous or no-strings sex - all without much success. Because they keep striking out, they’re “involuntarily celibate” (incel).
A cleft among the incels exists in that some of them are quite young and will grow out of this phase and into a stable relationship. Alas that the older, embittered incels who have multiple divorces in their pasts, and yet will own none of what happened, appear to make up the inner core of that subculture.
As a result of these divisions, and because there’s a wide streak of misogyny through the core subculture, it’s impossible to write a pamphlet capable of helping all these people with their different hangups. The best one can do is generalise, and hope the incels reading this have the wattage to understand these ideas and apply some of them.
I'm starting with the assumption that many incels proclaim their hatred of “normies” and women as a result of sour grapes: I can’t get it? Bah! I didn’t want it anyway.’
While there are genuine woman-haters in the lot, yes, there are so many more incels still young and airing their teenage / early 20s angst (albeit in the last place on Earth they should be seeking advice about sex).
That group concerns me the most because these are the most impressionable and because their hormones are going fucking hog wild on them to the point where some might contemplate self-harm. (Just look at the handles people choose for themselves on the incel reddit. Those do not bespeak any level of confidence and the older incels are hurting the younger ones who go to the sub/r looking for legit help.)
So, “Incel,” you asked for a guide. Here it is...and no, it will not lead to instant poon.
This guide requires that you change certain parts of your attitude. No, you do not have to change your fundamental self (unless you’re something much worse than merely an undersexed teen or man).
That's right: You need to change the way you view women, as well as how you interact with them. Women are not 'the enemy'; they're half the human race and anyone who tells you there are no good ones is either lying outright or he's delusional to the point of gibbering insanity.
This is simple: Follow the Golden Rule. Expect the same of others.
If there is a woman stringing you along, promising something she has no intention of delivering, “cut her loose.” She has no more of a right to abuse your trust and treat you with disdain than you have to treat anyone else in such a manner.
Yes, I know: Male teens especially are often horny All. The. Time to the point where some guys would, if available, take pills to prevent boners from occurring at awkward moments.
That is normal. It is normal to be a teenager or 20-something who wants sex but cannot get it and, whether you care to believe it or not, this is true for girls and women as well.
It’s normal to fantasise.
It’s normal to masturbate.
It’s normal to watch porn.
It’s normal to want sex.
And, above all else, it’s normal to want companionship.
Heads-up, incel; you’re probably normal.
LESSON ONE: Wait!
Buy a fleshlight. Download a stack of porn. Masturbation is a great way to relieve tension.
With the immediate tension gone, you can take a more realistic look at the people around you. You may find that those cheerleaders who play you are doing so not because they’re women but because they’re assholes. The “chads” they date are assholes and please attend me well, here, for I speak the truth the majority of the women who date them are also assholes. (Other posters here have made this point multiple times.)
I would go so far as to say “chad” is doing you a favour by gathering those women that would otherwise make for terrible long-term companions.
If, however, you are shallow and will overlook good women based on their appearance because you've always dreamed of dating the size 00 Prom Queen, then you may very well end up a 40-something incel who got cleaned out in the divorce. It is no surprise that an immature understanding of how relationships should work has led to many divorces for precisely those reasons.
Researchers at the University of Texas-Austin discovered a correlation between when a person has sex and future relational happiness. Not surprisingly, the longer a teenager waits the pickier she or he is the more likely that individual will be to have a happier life.
LESSON TWO: Stay away from bitter asses who have, through circumstances of their own making, wrecked their families and now blame women. Of course sex will sour when one partner (or both) is an abusive, possessive, jealous asshole who cheats. (Take heed: If you do find a girlfriend, and she obsesses over the idea you’re cheating, run. There’s a good chance she’s cheating on you. Wipe your hands of that and start again.)
Anyway,if you are superficial in the choices of women you chase,’ you may end up weighted down with someone just as superficial as you are. That is a curse. The way to avoid it is...
LESSON THREE: Don’t let appearance deceive you.
Of course you fantasise about the popular girl. Normal.
If you want to learn more about relationships, however, look past that and to the plain female incel (yes they do exist) sitting in class doing her work as opposed to fucking around.
You cannot have this both ways: Either you want to be superficial, and thus attract more superficiality (and they won’t have sex with you in part because they are superficial); or you want to be careful, developing a sense of whom to trust regardless of appearance. (Keep in mind here that there are STIs and the potential for pregnancy to consider as well.)
LESSON FOUR: PUA shit might work in a nightclub, but not elsewhere.
If you want a long-term relationship, do NOT follow advice such as “negging.”
Here’s the situation: You want “normies” to explain how it is that even the least attractive of them (us) can get sex while you’re out in the cold. Not knowing you, nor the issues plaguing other individuals, there can be no one-size-fits-all advice for finding a sex partner.
There is one thing I would classify as a universal truth both when searching for a partner and after you've found one: The two of you muuuuust respect each other. If one or the other does not, it's game over. Break it off or divorce now while you can cut your losses. (Yes, men can be abused by women - including physically. Do not put up with that shit. Easier said then done, I know, but there is a level on which yo teach people how they're allowed to treat you.)
It would be better for you to see a sex therapist or even a high class escort who can fill you in on how to treat women both on outings and in bed and - hopefully you'll be lucky - in long-term relationships.
To recap: Respect. Respect. Respect. And it goes both ways.
Some men will tell you the women they dated want to be treated like shit. A subset of them do while role-playing.
...while role-playing.
That’s the part choads such as Gavin McRacist forget to add when they give out their sex advice about how no means yes.
WANNA DATE?
* Ask someone out.
* If she says yes, proceed to the next step. If she says no, that game is over - for now, at least.
* If she keeps her end of the bargain and goes on that date, remember that you are treating her for the pleasure of her company and not because you believe an order of chicken wings is the way to a woman’s vagina.
* Get to know her.
* Play it honest. Don’t fake her interests if you truly don’t share them.
Basically this entire post amounts to the Golden Rule: Do to others as you’d have them do to you. It may take you longer to find a sexual partner this way, but the wait will be worth it.