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Nicole Leaman #fundie disciplesperspective.com

Pride. Arrogance. Rebellion. Selfishness. Conceitedness. I know this because I found these roots in my heart in regards to femininity and masculinity. Women (more specifically wives) are called to be/do the following: Helper: Gen 2:18, Care Taker: Titus 2:3-5, Ultimate image of beauty: Song of Solomon, and Submissive to husbands: 1 Tim. 2: 12.
In the second week, I talked about the seeds that were sown early in my life and the product I reaped was masculinity. I can’t say it enough that this was not done intentionally by my parents. None of this was done with the attitude of: “Oh, I want her to be masculine so I will not say anything and lead her down a masculine path.” Who I was came from a sinful and deceptive heart. It was because of Christ and His sacrifice that I could be redeemed: not just spiritually, but with every aspect of my life. We as Christians are not just called to become saved and live our merry lives with no changing. We are called to sanctification. To fix what is broken.
We as Christians should be redeeming everything we come into contact. Our families, church, schools, friends, extended families, neighbors, everyone we come into contact with. Redeeming—to recover sinful distortions into what they were intended to be. God made Adam and Eve perfect. He created their relationship with Himself and with each other perfect. When sin entered into the world, everything-to include creation-was tainted by sin and became distorted. Our relationships became distorted. Our deepest most intimate connections became distorted. Femininity became distorted. Masculinity became distorted. When I was born, I inherited distortion. After I realized (through God’s magnificent grace alone) that my life was horribly masculine and I was living a distorted life, I began the process of becoming who God made me to be: a true woman. My dress, my speech, my walk, my attitude, and soul was becoming more feminine. I didn’t know how bad everything was until I tried to fix it. Imagine a 25 year old trying to walk with her hips and a sway instead of with her shoulders and like a horse rider that just got off a horse after 4 hours of riding— it wasn’t pretty. If anything it was like the one funny part out of a bad comedy.
My hope and prayer is to encourage women to stand down. To get out of man’s arena (where he ultimately flourishes in) and to get into women’s arena (where she will flourish in). When women go into man’s realm, we are taking their masculinity away. They are not true men when we as women are not true women. When women become the primary protectors and the children run to the women for protection (police officer: mom-librarian: dad). When women become the primary means of providing (CEO: mom-stay at home: dad). When women are the primary spiritual leaders of a Christian home (who is teaching the children to follow the Lord—mom or dad? Who is seen as the spiritual leader? Mom or Dad? Kids aren’t stupid—.they know.) The Lord will hold the heads of the households primarily responsible for what goes on. “The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Genesis 3:12. God calls Adam to give the account and the distortion began: He blamed God and Eve for what happened.
Kids are sponges. They will soak every distortion up. Praise the Lord for His grace in our children’s life. If it wasn’t for His mercy, “The Lord of the Flies” would be our reality. Although the Lord is sovereign and has 100% control over everything, this does not mean that we step back and not teach our children. We need to teach and train them in the way of the Lord. We need to teach and train the boys to be men and girls to be women. It will be much more difficult (and hypocritical at times) if we don’t act or even know what true manhood and womanhood look like. I implore you to dig deeper, examine your heart, and become the man or woman God intended you to be—. its liberating. Your children and your children’s children will thank you.
“Shall a faultfinder contend with the Almighty? He who argues with God, let him answer it.” Job 40:2.

Nicole Leaman #sexist disciplesperspective.com

Tomboys and Pansies Pt 3

Looking back at the last two weeks, we have considered that children by and large learn behaviors through the people they interact with the most. If a mother of the family is dominant and “wears the pants”, the daughter could potentially mimic and do the same thing. If the father of the family is ‘whipped’ so to speak, the boys will most likely grow up to be followers instead of leaders. Our boys need to grow up knowing the weight of their responsibility: they will be the ones [primarily] who will be held responsible for their family (Responsibility/Headship: Gen 3:8-13 & 1 Cor. 11:3, Protection-Josh. 1:13-14, Providing-1 Tim. 5:8, Spiritual: Eph. 5:26). Although I have heard so much that “we need to train our boys to become men.” I have not heard very explicitly, “We need to train our girls to become women.” This is a command—.to “train” younger women to be ‘true’ women so to speak (Titus 2:3-4). It is because culture has distorted woman’s role/biblical femininity that I cannot say without someone getting ‘offended’ that “Women should submissive to their husbands in everything” (except with direct disobedience to God). Everything. If you find you do not like that I can guarantee you that if you dig deep you will find sin in your heart.

Nicole Leaman #sexist disciplesperspective.com

Tomboys and Pansies Part 2

So we talked last week about the importance of raising boys to be men and girls to be women. If we don’t, the children will learn it one way or another—whether they are told/taught or what they see and emulate. I was not verbally taught the importance of being a woman. I saw and learned through my fantastic, feminine mother, but I rejected it because I thought women were inferior to men. I wasn’t shown through scripture where it spoke of beauty and that ‘helper’ in Genesis is only used to reference how God is our helper. My job as helper is that important! I emulated my dad because I wanted to make him proud. I wanted to spend time with him. My dad was into military stuff and so I was too. My dad valued sports and so I was too. My dad was into motorcycles so I was into off-roading as I identified with man’s role. The scary thing about this is I didn’t do this knowingly. It was sub conscience. This is one of the main reasons why I am so passionate about. I wasn’t thinking with a masculine mindset on purpose. I was not normal. “There is nothing wrong with—yes, you are different but that’s Ok.” I hate to break the news to people but I was not normal.
Imagine me, a 10-11 year old girl crying as my dad and brother got to go out to a men’s retreat–camping in the woods, riding off-road vehicles, and shooting guns. So much fun! Take a glimpse into my thought process: This is totally unfair. How come I have to stay here while they get to go out and have fun. What am I going to do? Why did I have to be made a girl? Unfortunately, the next year it was called “family retreat.” I was the only girl that went.
Fast forward a few years and here I was at 24 years—Life was great (or so I thought),. Top sports athlete at school, honor society, gifted musician, held leadership roles in high school, police explorer, no drugs, no sex, everyone loved me, I was helpful and considerate to others, I wasn’t a jerk or a bully, my parents were extremely proud, and I was the example everyone looked to (well, I got told that a lot anyway). I had reached every major goal I set in life just about. I went to college on a sports scholarship, got a degree, joined the national guard, and I was hired at a major city police department. Someone asked me, “Wow, you have completed so much and you are only 24? What else do you want to do in life? What is your next goal? I looked at that person, thought about it for a second, and I replied, “I don’t know. I’ll have to think about it.” (Red flags anyone? Any at all?) Some people said when I was younger, “It’s a phase, she’ll grow out of it.” At 24, I identified with men more than I did with women and I had not grown out of that masculine phase—until one day—
I was sitting in church when my mom quickly rushed to me and said, “Did you see that new guy? [me] What new guy? [her] The guy who is in the military?” [me] No, I haven’t.” The church service was about to begin so I sat down. I had not seen this new guy people were talking about. Then my sister leaned over and said, “He is sitting by Eli. We stood for we stood up for the singing of a hymn. As I stood up I glanced behind and he was looking straight at me. Staring at my eyes not ashamed or shy in doing so—..(be still my beating heart).
And then began the hardest, difficult, most fulfilling, and liberating year of my short life. Questions started being raised such as, “Do you think the Bible supports women in the police force? What is the difference between combat in the military and combat in the police force? Do you think you are too masculine? Shouldn’t you work on your femininity—after all, you are a woman and not a man.” Observations were being communicated such as, “Did you know you walk like a man? Your posture seems aggressive. Do you think you do a better job at being a man than I do? Do you even want to be a woman?”
When these questions and observations came flooding into my life, I realized that I had never really been asked or questions about them in the past. Everybody thought it was just “who I was” and they wanted to support me. I believe that this is one of the most unloving things a person can do. My sin was in my heart and it came out in my actions (James 1:14-15, Jer 27:9). I didn’t think about these things. I just wasn’t interested in feminine things. I wasn’t interested in being a true woman. People saw this and recognized it and the most I got from people was this: “We are afraid for you” (in regards to military life and police work), “You should dress up more often” (Why? I didn’t want to do that ‘stupid stuff’.)
I sowed masculine seeds in my field and guess what popped in my life? You guessed it–I reaped masculine traits. I walked, talked, acted, sat, and dressed like a man. Like I mentioned before, I did not do this very consciously. I thought men were superior to women so why in the world would I want to emulate women?? In a culture that despises weakness, frailty, homemakers, house wives etc, why would a talented person like myself care for any of that stuff? No, no, this was deep in my psyche. When I was 17 years old, I looked at my amazing aunt of 6 boys said, “Why would I want to be a homemaker? I want to do something with my life.” I despised woman’s role—.and it showed. These things should be understood by all; so please, if you know a ‘tomboy’ try to invest in her life. She most likely is struggling much like I did. There is probably something going on deep down that will take a lot of patience and wisdom in helping her to see, by God’s grace, the beauty, importance, and value of womanhood.
Why didn’t people sit me down and explain to me that our God values beauty in women and He made us and designed us specifically to complement man whom He also designed in a specific way to complement women. Some say its genetics—that women who display more masculine traits than feminine or men who exhibit feminine traits then masculine were born that way. This is a lie straight from the ultimate deceiver himself. A man who identifies with women, and a woman who identifies with men, are in a sinful state, period. I am a woman.You cultivate a flower in fertile soil and it will grow. That man who asked me the extremely tough and hard questions knew this—.He knew that I was, deep down, and woman—like all women. He knew that if he cultivated and encouraged me to be feminine I would flourish. And let me tell you what friends–I have never felt so liberated in my life. Being a true woman who needs a true man and fulfilling the role God has called me to be is amazing. Feminism is a lie; I can tell you from my own experience how devastating, oppressive, and just how dysfunctional a family can become, by not enforcing those ‘horrible, evil’ stereotypes on their little girls.

Nicole Leaman #sexist disciplesperspective.com

How did I get to be a Tomboy?

One of my first memories as a child was when I was three or four years old. My mom told me to go and stay in my room until she told me to come out. She called for me to come out into the living room where my family was. My grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins were all there. In the middle of the living room was a beautiful plastic toy kitchenette. I loved that kitchenette—at least for a few years, until I became a tomboy.
I remember playing with Barbie dolls and even asked for a doll that made sounds when you played with her. Something happened though. Nothing sudden. I began shying away from girly toys. I played sports with the boys at recess. My aunt reminisce sometimes about the time she saw a little girl in a beautiful, white dress playing football with boys at recess. To her shock, it was her niece. I faintly remember going to one of my uncle’s basketball games and later another aunt. My family esteemed sports very highly. The men in my family were the school’s best players in basketball and soccer. All of them got scholarships to play sports in college. One of my uncle’s went the farthest and eventually played professional basketball in Brazil. I was asked by my grandpa a few times what I wanted to do after high school and at a young age I replied that I wanted to get a basketball scholarship to the family college everyone went to. I knew it would make him proud.
I remember on my brother’s ninth birthday he got a G.I. Joe. I was seven at the time and extremely jealous. I wanted a G.I. Joe too. I ended playing with his. My brother, younger cousin, and I could be found in the weeds dressed up in military fatigues. This lasted until I was fourteen. This is not normal for girls.
I don’t know what happened specifically. Like I said earlier it was a slow change. I began to not like the Barbie dolls. I played with my brothers toys instead. I had a wrong view of men and women interaction. I popped the Barbie doll heads off and when I mixed the G..I. Joes with the Barbie dolls I would hit the Barbie dolls with the G.I. Joes and called the dolls stupid. Some reading this would think I lived in an abusive home. Nothing could be further from the truth. I hardly ever heard my parents raise their voice (much less any physical abuse). My parents did not quarrel in front of us kids growing up. So what happened? There was never a traumatic period or questionable situation that the average person could look at and make sense of why I was like this. I did not like being a girl. I did not want to be girl. I thought the boys got to do all the fun stuff and girls had to be stuck at home taking care of babies and the house.
Things only got worse with time. I remember walking around the house without my shirt on ’cause that’s what daddy does.’ I couldn’t do that anymore when my body started its natural change. I did not like wearing dresses (school dress code) or having my hair done. My mother did almost everything short of physically forcing me to like dressing up and being girly. She curled my hair every single day of school from the time I was in Kindergarten until I was in fifth grade. She had me wear the nicest and cutest dresses (only to have to get the grass stains out).
My mom was very feminine. All the women in my family were. I did not have any ‘confusing’ examples set before me. My heart desired something. My soul was dissatisfied with who God made me to be. I saw the praise the men in our family got and that is what I wanted. I wanted to make my family proud too. Unfortunately, I chose the wrong route to go. I shook my fist at God; angry with him for making me a girl instead of a boy. I hated beauty and looked down on women who tried to be beautiful. I looked down on women who weren’t like men. I was sinning and I didn’t even realize it. The attitudes and beliefs in my heart came out in my actions. There was no specific event that pointed me in a particular direction. It was my deceitful, sinful heart. The curse for women in Genesis where it talks about the woman desiring the position of her husband (or men in general in my case) was coming out and rearing its ugly head. This is how I got to be the way I was. Sin. Sin feeding on my pride and arrogance.
If I could only go back and change my view of thinking. If you happen to know a boy or girl who is obviously trying to be someone they are not (God made boys to be men and girls to be women), I encourage you to have enough courage to talk to them about it and dig into their life. You might be surprised what is lurking in the shadows—and they might not even see it.

Lilyofthevallies #fundie disciplesperspective.com

Today, the word “Patriarchy” is a dirty word. We hear from the left that it is oppressive; we hear from the right that it is abused. There are websites across the internet dedicated to the downfall of patriarchy. Funny thing, normally, what the world sees as bad, the Bible sees as good. We see in the Bible that Patriarchy is sprinkled throughout. I would like to show what true Patriarchy is and why so many men and women are actually happier in a patriarchal family; the worldview that so many disdain.

“There has been 6% increase in women staying at home in the past decade as women realize what is more important; family.”

Patriarchy, or simply defined as, “Father Ruled,” is scattered all throughout the Bible. We see in Genesis that God made man first and later created a woman because, “It was not good that man was alone.” God made a beautiful woman to be a helper to the man. This role was designed and instituted by God to display an attribute of Himself. The Hebrew word for “helper” is only used again throughout the Bible in describing God Himself to His people. This is how high and lofty a woman’s calling is. When the woman sinned, God went to Adam first because the Man was the one who was primarily responsible. We see Adam, the man, being the ruler of his house. This is the quintessential prototype of the family.

Moving past creation, the use of covenants and genealogies were centered around the Men/Heads of Households (Gen 35, 36, Ex 6, 1 Chron 4, Matt 1). Yes, we also see that there are women listed in these genealogies (Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Uriah’s wife [Bathsheba], and Mary to name a few). However, everyone knows that the exception to the rule, proves there is a rule. This pattern clearly shows that familial lines transferred through the males. God established his covenants through male representatives; it was to men and their offspring. We struggle thinking this is unfair; it is important to note that this is not unfair. God is not being unjust by putting men in charge. God is not a tyrannical dictator nor is His design for this—because we are created in His image (Gen 1:26-27). If you think God is unfair, just remember, what is fair, is for God to annihilate all mankind, for we have sinned before His Holiness. Every breath we have been given is a gift; this unfairness mentality that is pervasive in this culture is childish, immature, arrogant, and sinful. Rejoice that life isn’t fair!

“Men are 40% more likely than women to be the victim of a violent crime. Patriarchy abuses women is a lie; rape culture is a lie.”

Under a patriarchal family; all of a woman’s needs are taken care of. She is freed up to take care of her precious little ones, instead of needing to worry about where the next meal will come from. When the father dies, the eldest son (typically) takes over his father’s responsibilities. This would have included caring for and protecting, his mother, brothers, sisters, and their families, as well as managing the father’s estate and possessions. In a loving Patriarchal family, the women of the family were under the caring protection of the head of the household. These women were under their responsibility; if there was abuse, the man was ultimately held responsible before God.

Men were designed to be rulers over their households. Women were designed to be man’s helper as he takes dominion. When man fulfills his role, he is satisfied; when woman fulfills her role, she is satisfied. Issues arise when the man or woman is fighting their role; men shirking responsibility or women trying to usurp man’s authority. Because of sin and this cursed world, we have people head butting, creating abuse and oppression. The 21st century mindset is the opposite of this way of living.

The essence of Patriarchy is Biblical. When it is pure and loving, women flourish. A woman is most happy when she is submitting to God, which means submission to his design. Patriarchy is the familial system that is interwoven throughout the entire Bible. It brings purpose to both men and to women. It is a beautiful picture of Christ and His Church—His Bride. What better example to give our children is there than that?

Lilyofthevallies #fundie disciplesperspective.com

How to Identify a Male Chauvinist

First off, we need to define what is male chauvinism, because there is a lot of confusion out there. Male chauvinism is the belief, whether conscious or not, that women, womanhood, femininity, and therefore, beauty, are inferior to, men, masculinity, manhood, and strength. So you see, it’s a little bit broad of a definition, so let’s break things down some, shall we? Below are several examples of what Male Chauvinism looks like in todays society/church.

Anyone who believes that it is acceptable for a woman to be in the police force and military, is someone who is a misogynist, and frequently, but not always, a male chauvinist. This is pretty crystal clear, but what else do these people think and believe?

Well, unfortunately, many people think that chivalry is chauvinism, but on the contrary, its the loving notion that women deserve respect and special treatment. So the people who are attacking chivalry are guilty of male chauvinism. Male chauvinism is having a low view of a woman’s God-given role, little value for their God-given gifts, and no appreciation for womanhood’s uniqueness. Too many men and women have no appreciation or value of beauty; only valuing strength and leadership, at the expense of womanhood. God did not make Eve suited for leading, but Adam. The Creator did not make Eve to represent the strength of God, but His beauty. Why do we as men not cherish beauty in our daughters; appreciate their lack of leadership, just as God intended it? Why do we want them to be ‘just as strong and as much of a leader as a boy’? Why are we listening to the chauvinism and so called ‘wisdom’ of this world?

Chauvinism is treating your wife or daughter like she is just as tough and brave as a man, even though the Great Creator did not make them that way. Treating them like steel pots instead of fine china. Countless women are male chauvinists too, but for some reason, many people think that only a man can be one. Some women, in fact, hate women and womanhood so much, that they don’t even want to be women, but would rather be men. This is the perverted product of this wretched sin. What are you teaching your children? Are you teaching both your boys and girls to be tough, strong, brave leaders? You’re probably a male chauvinist who bought into the cool-aid the world is offering.

Chauvinism is not treating women as special and different, not cherishing them, nor their beauty, but instead cherishing masculine traits in a woman. Is any of this making sense? It is hateful, or misogynistic, to try to make a fish fly, or pig swim. We can only do that which we were created to do. But people hate women, womanhood, and femininity, and so want women to do what God did not create them to do. Encouraging a woman to be the leader in a relationship, to take on the burdens that she should not have to carry, is incredibly unloving and unbiblical.

Male chauvinism is the attitude that taking care of the house and children is ‘not important’ or a ‘waste’; the sinful idea that bringing home a paycheck is somehow so much more lofty and noble and worthy of a task. God gave both tasks; providing and protecting is the task He gave to men. Raising the kids and tending the home is the task that the good Lord gave the women, but many men and women look down on these jobs as inferior for a woman. This is the very height of male chauvinism.

In order to identify male chauvinists, we are going to have to understand how they think, what they believe. Sometimes they are disguised as godly people, sometimes they are godly people who are sinful and imperfect like you and I. Sometimes they will hide under the banner of ‘equality’, but in truth, they want no such thing. They never do. The more we understand the different flavors of male chauvinism, the more we can identify them. But as long as we are calling good ‘bad’, and bad ‘good’, then we will always have troubles spotting the spiritual disease of arrogance and pride.

Lilyofthevallies #fundie disciplesperspective.com

7 (8) Reasons Why Women Should not be Cops

1. NOT a Woman’s Spiritual make-up: Peter 3:3–4 which urges women to cultivate a “gentle and quiet spirit.” Being a cop is NOT cultivating this. God did not create women to be the aggressive, assertive, dominant sex, and yet, that is precisely what the feminists want and the police force needs.

2. NOT a Woman’s Physical make-up: Clearly God did not design women, as a whole and in general, with this purpose in mind, clearly it was a role that God gave men, so why are women taking it from them? Why are women going against God’s obvious intent? If it is wrong for a man to hit a woman because he is stronger, then what about a woman who is a cop?

3. Image: In Song of Solomon, we see it is the woman’s job is to bare the image of a flower, of beauty and fragility. “I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys.” Song 2:1. Impossible to do as a Navy Seal or a soldier. A woman should represent womanhood IN the home AND outside the home. This cannot be done in the inherently masculine role of a cop, or, like my previous post talked about, as G. I. Jane.

4. Setting bad example: If it is not something you want your children to emulate, then why are you doing it? A woman as a cop or even a soldier can lead to confusion, and gender confusion leads to homosexuality. The number of lesbians in the military and especially the police force, are incredibly high. There is a correlation that many men in the military have picked up on. Your are leading others kids astray, causing them to stumble—

5. Scandalous: Furthering on the last note, I am afraid that a ‘Christian’ woman who is a cop, is creating a scandal. Because of the reputation of female cops as being lesbians is such a recognized truth among certain groups, it is pure scandal in the church of Christ. Eph. 5:3, “But sexual immorality and any impurity or greed should not even be heard of among you, as is proper for saints. (Italics mine).”

6. Usurping /stealing man’s intended purpose and role: God gave this role to men, so why are women taking it, as if they ‘have a right’ to it? This is not the natural order of things that God has set forth, and yet so many people instinctively know this. God does not screw up, nor is He arbitrary; He designed men and women for a purpose, and those purposes are NOT the same. A man’s role is to protect women, children, and society. Why do we have women who are not satisfied with their God given roles?

7. Pragmatic Reason: Men are not being men, to a very large degree, because women are not being women. You want your man to be a man? Then get out of his way and stop doing his job for him. Very, very, few men desire to have a wife who is a cop; it is shameful for a man if a woman is just as, or more so, of a man than he is. This is inherent in the way God made men and women. You want to increase your odds of getting married? Be a woman, not a man.

8. Cross-dressing is Wrong: It is a perversion, it’s ungodly. Society ‘accepts’ men and women who cross dress, but that does not mean the God who created them does. Our God is not a God of confusion so why do we have women who are dressing up in the manliest clothes they can possibly wear? Because they want to be masculine. This is wrong, unhealthy, and only creates confusion. Just because society applauds women wearing clothes that makes are inherently masculine, does not mean the church should.

This feminist culture has redefined what it means to be a woman, now the church needs to redefine it again, back to what it should be. Even little children know that a woman should not be a cop, let us humble ourselves and learn from the ‘wisdom from the mouth of babes’.

Lilyofthevallies #fundie disciplesperspective.com

Kids are sponges. No one needs proof about this. We just know that the large majority of kids soak up everything they encounter. Languages come naturally to kids it seems like. My 6 cousins ranging from ages 3-10 recently moved to Brazil for missions work. These 6 kids caught on so fast. Within 5 months, they were translating for me when I went to visit them this past summer. They learn so fast! Unfortunately, kids also pick up and learn behavior that is not conducive to Christian living.

[The first most important above all else, even with what follows, is the child’s relationship with the Lord. Without Christ they are lost completely.]

Children will learn what their role is in life through the ones they are most around (parents, daycare, neighbors, and school). Knowing and following Christ is most important in the child’s life. What’s next after that? What they will do in life? What college they will go to? We as parents need to not forget this: One day, if the Lord wants, your child will grow up. They will become men and women. This culture says there is no difference between men and women (women being forced to sign up for the draft is next, don’t believe me? Type it in Google and see what pops up). Culture is saying that men can fit into women’s mold and women can fit into men’s mold. What they are not saying is the consequences of this belief.

Little girls must be raised to be women. Little boys must be raised to be men. What does this mean? What does this look like? What does the Bible say about this? Is it that important?

If women are to follow the authority of Christ, the church leaders, fathers, and husbands, why in the world are we pushing and encouraging them desperately to be leaders of the next generation? Why are we pushing them to not need men? Why are we loving the movie ‘Brave’ which promotes that women can be just as good and better than men at being men?

Please listen and think very deep about this. Women will never match up to men at being men—.because guess what (pause for effect) women are not men. And the opposite is true as well. Men will never match up to women at being women because they aren’t women.

So the question I have is this, “Why did the first statement bother you if it did?” I could possibly have the answer. Because a year ago I would have had a big problem because I was taught wrong.

As a woman, I thought I was inferior to men for being a woman. So I looked down on womanhood, motherhood, and femininity. I fought tooth and nail to reject the essence of who God created me to be. I wanted to fit man’s mold. I was angry at God for making me a woman. I have heard this from so many women more and more that they thought this growing up too. What in the world?? Do boys grow up angry at God because God created them boys? I’m guessing they don’t as much because this culture values masculinity more than femininity. Being weaker is inferior, being beautiful is ‘dumb’ and ‘pointless’. Needing a man to complement what women don’t have is looked down on. No wonder stay at home moms should ‘do something important with their life.’ That is the biggest lie I ever believed. Next week, Lord willing, I will continue the thought that, no—.we CAN’T afford to learn how to be women and men later in life—we have to teach and train kids how to be men and women now. While we can—. while they are sponges.