IncelTears Incel mod loses hope.

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I get rejected like 10 times a month. It's called "dating."

This is a pretty classic cognitive distortion. What the other person says is, "I am not attracted to you." What they hear is "You are not attractive." It's taking a non-personal thing intensely personally.

I know the classic incel response to this: "When it happens over and over, it's hard not to take personally." Well, I know some absurdly hot people. Like, stupid hot. They get rejected, flaked on, and ghosted constantly. This happens to everyone. You've just found a group of self-defeating people who reinforce the worst/most useless thoughts that pop into your head. You're victimizing yourself.

It’s understandable that some people even when very attractive get rejected from time to time. But 10 times a month is incel level depending on the amount of women he dates. If he’s asking 12 people on a date a month and getting rejected 10 times a month he’s not very good looking in general. If he’s asking 50 a month and being rejected 10 times he’s not very good looking either. If he’s asking 100 a month and getting rejected 10 times that’s understandable - but nobody has the time in their right mind to ask 100 people a month out on a date.

He clearly doesn’t understand dating and using rejection like it’s normal. If you’re hot you’ll get rejected maybe 5 times out of 100 people you ask on a date.

This is coming from experience as I’m a decently attractive person - I’ve never been rejected by a woman (since I turned 18, and probably haven’t been rejected 10 time in my lifetime) but some dates haven’t gone as far as two.

This idiot is tricking his brain with lies like ‘well hot people get flaked on’ yes they do, but not often like he’s making out. Or - he clearly doesn’t know what an attractive man looks like.