There's a reason the divorce rate skyrocketed once people started marrying for something as fickle as love. People have only been marrying for love since fairly recently. It's not something to place your bets on.
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Yes, marriage for love is still a fairly recent idea. But I still think it's a hell of a lot better than marrying because daddy wants to strengthen his ties with a business partner, or so that he can gain some kind of political advantage.can get out of a marriage, if they want to. It's nice to know that if someone gets into an abusive marriage, or if two people just find that they are no longer happy with each other then there's a solution. Sometimes, preserving the marriage is the worst thing that can be done.
omg this reminds me of a quote from one of my friends when we were 16, and he was ultraconservative... he said "Love has very little to do with marriage" [we were debating same-sex marriage].
This is actually true...many marriages in ages past were for convenience, economic reasons, or family arrangement.
BurntBush
14 married, 20 years together. And daddy didn't even have to sell her to me!
I hate to break it to you, but older generations who got married because it was expected of them have been getting divorced in droves since their children have grown up and they realized they were living with someone they didn't love and perhaps didn't respect. In most cases they were misrible for a long time and only because of outdated thinking that it was best for the child to be in a two person household no matter if the parents got along or not did they waste so much of their life.
Almost 83% of divorces are caused by marriage.
That's not fundie at all. In fact it's pretty damn accurate.
My first marriage was to a semi-fundie, it lasted less than four years. Second marriage was to an atheist and has lasted 20 years to date. We lived together for a little over a year before that.
nah, that's "genocide" ... it SOUNDS a lot like "love", but its really a lot more like cubscouts: Lots of fire, wood and rope.
Damn, and I thought I was cynical about love.
So, if not for love, what on earth are we marrying?, for money?, that´s similar to long-term prostitution and it ends with the first economic crisis.
"So, if not for love, what on earth are we marrying?"
Actually, I agree with Sarah. My grandmother taught me the same thing. She said that "...Someone doesn't stay angry at another forever. Anger, love, fear and all other emotions fade with time. If you base an entire relationship on something as fleeting as an emotion, then that relationship is doomed." That seems like sound advice to me.
So...tell us Sarah, what IS the purpose of being in a marriage? Oh wait, lemme guess, procreation within Godly standards, right?
For the record, what caused divorce rates to 'skyrocket' (which is itself a debatable term) was -stuck in a bad relationship, with no recourse, for the rest of your life?)
Though I think I do agree that what we in the US think of as 'love' (Greek eros ) is not a good emotion to base a lifelong relationship on. But get your facts straight. (Let's start with that 'people have only married for love recently' claim ... )
Could be Poe, or could be Sarah's not getting any at all.
Its not like Christians don't divorce or whatever.
Not fundie. Not retarded. Can be judged as cynical; I'd say 'clinical'.
Well hold up now, in some cultures it has been the norm to marry for love, not the exception (my own being an example).
IMHO, the divorce rate has "skyrocketed" for several reasons:
2) marriage is not as economically necessary as it was years ago (in other words, a person nowadays usually can survive economically if their marriage breaks up)
I've been married to my true love for two decades, and that love has enabled us to stay together through events that would've broken up many couples. Over the years we've survived being poor, having stillborn twins, the death of one of our children at age 4 in a car accident, losing our home, and my husband suffering from a degenerative disease. Despite what sarah seems to think, I highly doubt we'd have made it through those times if we weren't madly in love.
I'd bet EVERYTHING on any marriage based on real, true love.
Actually, it's more that mistresses are no longer an accepted practice, and divorce *is*.. If something is more achievable, then, yeah there's going to be more of it.
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