[ in response to commenters calling a guy that deliberatly refuses to get tested for HIV and potentially endanges his sex partners, selfish ]

Bailey:
I am rather shocked at these attitudes here.
People are fine having unprotected sex or protected sex with virtual strangers and then get upset when they find out that person was HIV positive— even if it was wholly protected sex.
HIV isn’t a death sentence anymore. It’s like herpes.
The bigger issue is that you people take no responsibility for your own actions— so you slutted around last week and meet a new guy this week and have sex— you could be HIV+ even if you don’t know. At least hiv+ people who know their status can take and ensure precautions.
Most of you would rather bury your heads in the sand and believe they are negative because they ‘look’ healthy or told you they are negative from their last test (and whether true or not, unless they haven’t had sex for 3 months prior to that test and none after, they don’t know.
Accept responsibility for YOUR OWN actions and stop blaming someone else.
It’s time to decriminalize this. Hey, you fucking idiot. You must assume that every person you have sex with has hiv.
If you don’t, you will get hiv.
Don’t blame them. Blame your damn self.

Todd:Fucking ditto. This “they need to disclose” bullshit ignores the reality of the epidemic in favor of people’s fantasy. Its fucking insulting to those of us who took control of our health, it usurps any rational model of prevention and it makes things much, much worse for everyone. The ten ton elephant in the living room is that these queens are freaking out because the OP just popped their balloons, not because he’s doing anything unusual.