We don't, never did, and never will need to live by the standards of the West. So in fact, it's tough shit for you. Deal with it.
North Korea is not China, nor would the OP be so defensive of the North Korean situation if China could (or even actually wanted to) operate the way NK does - especially not since he posted this on the fucking internet.
China may be allied with NK on principle, but Chinese urban culture is worlds more advanced.
The OP has a strong command of English but also (tellingly) acknowledges the Tiananmen Square massacre - information which he mentions apparently without fear of censorship by the Great Firewall.
The Tiananmen Square Massacre is such a controversial and sensitive topic in China that many modern university students won't admit openly to knowing it happened at all.
These facts alone are enough to point me in the right direction concerning what the OP probably is: Likely a first-generation Chinese-American, or a Chinese citizen who has spent a great deal of time in the West.
Less defensible guesses are that the poster is Mid-30s and university educated.
He is either using tunneller software to breach the national firewall or (far more likely) he's posting from the West. (His general respect for Western democracy, though he considers it inferior to the Chinese political model, is another clue he's familiar with Western culture.)
He does not seem at all so familiar with the North Korean situation and I'd argue that's of a piece with his unquestioning respect for the truth of official Chinese political rhetoric (which is part of why I believe he is, indeed, of Chinese heritage and with ties to the country no further than a generation removed).
Now to the meat of the matter:
Usually in wars of propaganda, "Your culture/government is shit; here's proof" is pitted against, "No. Our culture/government is fine. Here's the rebuttal. It's yours that suck the devil's ballsack. Here's proof" ad infinitum. There are at least two sides, and both can effectively rebut the more demonising claims made by opposing interests about their politics and peoples.
North Korea is the only country I can think of where the sole purveyor of positive imagery from the country comes from its government. The only North Koreans who leave don't offer the usually nuanced view of refugees (or, in this case, defectors) from other nations...e.g., that the bad within government grew so terrible it began to outweigh the good to the point where living there safely is no longer possible.
But defectors and refugees usually have something positive to say about their homelands.
Not one public-speaking North Korean defector has ever said anything about the country beyond that's an economically depressed nation where whole families are thrown into fucking gulags.
Not. One.
To my knowledge, no government, including that of China, has argued North Korea is anything beyond a semi-functional state that relies on allied support to maintain infrastructure that was basic in every developed country on Earth 50 years ago.
It is not Chinese cultures' seemingly stronger emphasis on social harmony over individualism that causes personal revulsion when considering North Korea. It is, in part, that there is probably (and perhaps quite literally) only one fat person in the whole nation: Its Dear Leader, the Munificent Martial Kim Jong Un.