Recently, a mother told us that after cracking down on her children with consistent use of the rod, one child thanked God for making his mama sweeter. The increased spankings had reduced disobedience, causing the child to be more in harmony with his mother. He interpreted this to be a sweeter mother, for three spankings a day are much less stressful than fifty scowls of disapproval. So we see that it is God’s love for us that motivates his acts of chastisement.
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And mother will be stunned when her child gets to adolescence and starts committing acts of vandalism, assault and theft. Her cry will be "But I raised him to be such a nice obedient boy."
Sorry, even one spanking a day is child abuse, and that child would be thanking God even more for having CPS remove him from his mother's custody. An abusive mother is raising a future abusive boyfriend/husband/father.
it's bad when you put this suffering builds character mentality into it that fundies have but I still hate that the other side of the spanking argument has this absolutist view of "All spanking is abuse, all the time, absolutely no exceptions."
I got spanked and I never broke any laws or thought violence was the solution to all my problems. so, yes, I can say I was spanked and turned out fine.
@#2125708
You have to understand that any disciplinary action has the potential to become abuse if mishandled. I believe that a spanking can be a good disciplinary tool, but only when done as a last resort, when you're confident that nothing else will work, and not when the parent is angry.
It's so easy to misuse a spanking, simply because it's such a seemingly good method of discipline. It's scary to any child, it can be done in minutes with little inconvenience to the parent, and the threat of it can make most kids change their attitude really quick. But if a parent relies too much on it, than their authority becomes based in fear, not love or respect. Such an environment screws up most children, because they learn that the parent is right because he is stronger, not because he's actually right. And the second the child stops fearing the parent, all of the things the parent has tried to teach their child disappears with that fear.
Wait, who am I responding to now? I feel like I just typed up a two-paragraph response to the wrong person...
Mikey-boy is going to find himself in prison one day.
He'll learn that the old lags, lifers etc there just love child abusers like him.
Interpret that however you like, OP.
@#2125708, Some Christian Anon:
If that makes me an absolutist on that issue, I shall be so proudly, for there are things where compromise is unacceptable.
Just because it did no long-term harm in your particular individual case, corporeal punishment of children does not become a generally acceptable method of child rearing nor not wrong on principle.
Also, are you realising that you are implying that all abused children MUST grow up to be broken people?
Enough abuse and you mistake the momentary absence of punishment for kindness.
Believe me, my current family situation is anything but harmonious.
@Pharaoh Bastethotep
Yeah, that's why I said it was a last resort.
But frankly, after thinking it through, something must have been going seriously wrong along the child-raising process if a spanking is ever needed in the first place, to be completely honest. And whatever it is, it's certainly not the kid's fault.
I don't find spanking abuse, but not really needed. I don't like spanking and would bat an eye to anyone who has or would spank their kids. The only time that I wouldn't if the parent swat the kid for running in the street. A slap on the butt is nothing compare to getting run over by a car or a truck.
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