That happened to me. My own mother made excuses for my adulterous ex. It sounds pretty awful, but I came out of that suspecting that she had done something similar.
It’s a shame, because I always thought she was better than the skank-ho single mommies of so many of my childhood friends from back in the 80s.
The worst part as a guy was thinking of all the opportunities I passed up in order to be a faithful husband. The beautiful women better-looking than my wife that I turned down in order to be a “good man.”
In retrospect, I’m actually glad I acted honorably, but my respect for women as equals was totally shattered. And that’s a good thing. What foolishness ever possessed me to think of women in that way? The only thing I can think of that justifies it is that my father was a morally deranged man, and I had no good standard by which to measure men aside from Jesus Christ, who is divine after all.
There is really no excuse for a wanton woman, except for the desire that burns in her loins. Let’s just be honest about that and call it as it is. In that case a man who cheats is as blameless as the “unhappy” young wife, and let us treat them equally.
Then maybe there will be as much fear on the part of the woman as the man, and divorce will be less common as there is no advantage either way.