“Well, marriages are a lot more likely to survive if both people have a realistic idea of marriage”
I really don’t think ‘realistic’ is the best word, here. There are so many different interpretations of that word, and that’s just in my circle of coworkers.
J’s view that the man is in charge is realistic for HIS marriage, not for B’s or D’s. The feminists’ marriage are different but realistic for THEM.
I’d say ‘overlapping’ or ‘equivalent’ ideas of marriage.
“(as in, what marriage is actually like and not just some dream come true fairy tale marriage you see in the movies)”
Dude, if your definition of relationships is ‘something i saw on TV’, you deserve what you get.
"you don't live together before marriage,”
Meh. That’s not the problem. If you don’t realize that everything changes when you can no longer just walk out the door, that could be a problem.
“and you sort out issues that come up in marriage before you actually get married.”
That’s bullshit. No one knows all the issues that will come up in their marriage. SOME of them can be sorted out if you cohabit, though.
“We went through a book called "1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married" and we talked about EVERYTHING and discussed EVERYTHING.” If that doesn't give you a realistic idea of marriage, I don't know what does.”
I have to question if the 1001 questions included ‘whose orders take precedence when negotiating transfers for both enlisted parties.’??
All in all i can see USES for such lists, but doubt it can predice all problems. And I still have to point out that we lived together for about 2-3 years before getting married, and have lasted 37 years so far.
