This is NOT how heterosexuals mate. Women are hypergamous, which means they seek men of higher power and status. Nurses marry doctors.
On a date, a man reveals himself and his vision of life. She decides if she's interested in him or not. If she is, she affirms him by her acceptance and encouragement. In marriage, she demonstrates her love by trusting him to take care of her interests.
He also affirms her by seeking her acceptance. Yes, he also wants her to be capable and successful. But his recognition and nurturing come later.
All successful organizations are hierarchical. The heterosexual family is male dominated. If you wanted to destroy it, you promote equality. Our culture is doing this.
61 comments
1. The dictionary definition of hypergamy describes it as a practice among Hindu women where they will marry into a caste AT LEAST as high as their own.
2. The US is not a caste-based society, much less a Hindu-inspired caste-based society so the entire argument is utter nonsense.
No, nurses marry doctors because they're the most easily datable.
And that just because someone is hypergamous doesn't mean they can't be equal.
So, you would NOT choose the one earning the most? Good to know.
When I chose my husband, he was merely a lowest grade engineer, still in our "gymnasium" level. Somewhere between your high school and college. I had higher grades than him in almost all subjects. Probably would have had in Spanish as well, If I had taken that class. I know more Spanish now than he does, even tough I have never taken a course in it.
He was nice and seemed kind, and had nice firm legs. That was what started it.
Following back to Makow's own site (the catchily-titled savethemales.ca) he is a total conspiracy nut, articles such as "Is the New World Order Jewish?" abound. No clue though as to the big question, just what subject is Dr Makow's PhD in?
People always do that, if he is a PhD in, say maths, then his opinions on marriage have no more weight than anyone else's.
No.
When was the last time you were on a date?
Uh, no, because they're equal partners in the relationship.
And no. No, no, no, no, no, fucking WRONG!
Here's the Wikipedia on this asshole, another one of our Canadian fundies.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_Makow
Then again it claims that he invented the game Scruples? So who the hell knows.
And he shipped in a mailorder bride, who divorced him.
Nurse's marry doctors because most doctors USED to be men. Now the problem is that majority of nurses are women. Majority of doctors are also women (a very slight majority nearly 55% of doctors are women).
This means that male doctors pretty much only have nurses and doctors in their dating pools. And if you ever work in a hospital you know that the nurses have equal power to a doctor since they are responsible for the smooth running of a hospital.
You jackass.
My wife is smarter than me (or at least she has more qualifications) and she definitely earns more than me.
Seems to work so far (27 years and counting).
Whereas you got divorced by a mail-order bride.
Tee Hee.
"All successful organizations are hierarchical."
Bull-fucking-SHIT. My mom and dad have an equal relationship, and they've been happy together for over 25 years. Dad earns most of the money, but Mom pays the bills, makes the vacation plans, and picks the decor. Disagreements are infrequent, but they nearly always compromise somewhere in the middle.
However, my mother was part of a "male-dominated" marriage before she met my dad. He was an abusive fuckwit who didn't like my mom going to college because he hated "uppity" women. He nearly destroyed my mother's self-respect, and it wasn't until after she'd divorced him and gotten involved with my father that she began to recover. I remember 10 years later, seeing her start crying for no reason. That's not healthy, and since no one else in her family does that, I know she didn't grow up doing it.
Yeah, and men seek wealthy nymphomaniac blondes with big tits and a Dad who owns a Brewery.
Oh, guh. This disgusts me as a feminist and as a married woman. Funny, I'm a strong, independent woman who had a job and home of my own when I met my husband. Funny, he thinks a strong woman is hot. And NO, my husband does not dominate our marriage. Moron.
So we've got a misogynist who got the boot from his mail-order bride and a child molester sharing a website. Both are deluded, both are sadly lacking in self-esteem, and both also lack any backbone and gumption that doesn't come from either the Bible or the mistaken belief that men are better than women. It's a boatload of fail times two.
"Women are hypergamous, which means they seek men of higher power and status."
Odd. That word wasn't covered in my bio classes. Also, way to overgeneralize.
"The heterosexual family is male dominated."
Maybe yours is. I want my (hypothetical) husband to treat me as an equal, not a thing he needs to watch over and defend like he owns me (i.e. I don't want him to treat me like I treat my cat).
And exactly how can this not happen between two men or two women? Oh and when you go on a date, it's not just the woman deciding if she is interested in the man. It also works the other way.
And nurses marry doctors. Or not. I know many nurses not married to doctors and many doctors not married to nurses. And what if you had a female nurse and a doctor of the same gender? Couldn't they get married?
Funny thing that one of the last articles of The Economist spoke of the hive theory, you know, the not hierarchical, team oriented companies...........well, unless he wrote it ten years ago or so.
uh.... lol... WUT? What kind of fantasy planet are you living on? Step out of your right winged ego trip COCKodile hunter harlequinn romance novel world and into REALITY. Who are YOU to say how ANY couples should mate, date, marry, and co exist together? PH.D. or not... love, dating, sex, and copulation works out however the fuck it works out and not on someones contingency plan or personal schedule and belief... LOLZ
Actually, what I look for in a man is kindness, patience, intelligence and.. What's the word for the trait of being understanding? Awww, screw it. Anyway, I really couldn't care less about power and status. What a suprise, you fail at understanding women.
Nurses marry doctors? Sometimes. Other nurses marry people from other occupations, not all of them occupations considered higher status than nursing.
Oh, and sometimes when a nurse marries a doctor, the husband is the nurse and the wife is the doctor.
"The heterosexual family is male dominated."
Oh, tell that to MY family.
Also, goddamn misogynists.
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
To post a comment, you'll need to Sign in or Register . Making an account also allows you to claim credit for submitting quotes, and to vote on quotes and comments. You don't even need to give us your email address.
