I can sum up everything I'm trying to say with this... You ought to have the spirit of a martyr in marriage, that is, I may die, but I won't quit my marriage. I may go through hell, wind and high water, but I'm not going to throw-in-the-towel and give up on my marriage. If I had my way, divorce would be outlawed in every circumstance! You would be stuck with the person you promised to stay with until death. That is what the wedding vows state.