My apologies in advance for a very long post, but I have much to say to "FSTDT.com fails".
In the event that you are too busy to read the rest of my post "FSTDT.com fails", please just answer this for me: what is your reasoning behind the idea that female submission is necessary for society to function? I would think that truly equal marital partnerships are a better, safer choice. What makes men inherently deserve the upper hand? Many families- including my own- flourish beautifully without the woman being at all submissive- so why is it supposedly required? What happens when the man is "just a jerk", or emotionally twisted, or simply wrong? I would like to know your opinions on these things.
Anyway... I don't find the questions from my last post "daft" at all. If you are going to claim to know the causes of a societal ill, then you'd better be able to explain yourself when your causes fail to apply. Otherwise you're just speculating and giving opinions as facts.
Speaking of facts- sorry to disappoint you, but strong/independent women are not the cause of abuse. Abuse is a multi-faceted mental problem that usually forms during the abuser's dysfunctional youth. It doesn't suddenly show up one day when he decides to have an adult tantrum. I seriously recommend you seek out a recent, unbiased book or study on spousal abusers. You will find that no one suddenly "becomes" abusive simply because he is displeased. Abusers are constant in their cruelty; they live out their patterns of violence repeatedly and need no "reasons" to hurt their victims. It doesn't matter how submissive or "well-behaved" his wife is, if a man is the type to strike her, he's going to make up his own "reasons" to do it. This is proven fact.
So yes, you are defending it by explaining it away and blaming it on the woman's behaviour. And yes, you are offending decent men by claiming that every man is willing and ready to be an abuser if he can't get his way. A healthy adult is not like a spoiled child who can't use diplomacy and discussion, punching and kicking while blaming everyone else for his own outburst.
Regarding infidelity, please tell us the connection between "man is not in control" and "man must go have hot sex with a woman who is not his wife". Unless you believe that a man should be able to demand sex at any given moment and instantly receive it (an idea that is repulsive to the extreme), the two things are not related. You're just making sexist excuses for male misbehaviour again.
Before I go I have two more questions, so that I may better understand your position:
1) Why are societies where women are oppressed submissives some of the most savage and unhealthy, with the worst human rights violations? If it's how mankind is meant to live, you would think it'd produce some of the healthiest and happiest people. That does not actually pan out, however.
2) how is it possible for a couple to make decisions together (as you say they should) if the woman must constantly submit to her husband's will? That's contradictory. It is simply impossible for one to be submissive yet also have one's opinions considered. If she must always defer, then there is no point in discussion- when her opinion differs from his then she must give in because he automatically "knows better". When her opinion is the same as his, it's what he's going to do anyway. Either way, his desires are always going to win. How awful.
P.S.- you asked how your post offended- well, one needn't use profanity to be offensive! You've done quite well at sickening us just by making baseless and sexist assumptions... and with being a domestic violence sympathizer :) I am critical and use curse words, yes; but you are a violence-excusing chauvinist. I'll keep my cussing, thanks.
How hilarious that you can say such horrid things and then act all offended because I wasn't polite enough to you. Sorry, but I absolutely will not lie to you and pretend that I am glad to meet you... pity if that hurts your feelings. I see no need to speak kindly to someone who considers my gender second-class citizens, no more than I would speak kindly and gently to a racist.