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(messedupbeyondrepair)
I hate the normie delusion that ugly people don't exist. We do exist, and I am a perfect example of one.

"Just get a better haircut/wear makeup/work out/take a shower, sis!"

I have spent TENS of THOUSANDS of dollars on makeup, skincare, haircare, diet pills, and injections, and am also currently saving up more than 70% of my income per month just to get cosmetic surgery next summer. This doesn't count the even more exorbitant amount I've spent on clothes that are meant to flatter my nonexistent figure, and all the time and effort I've spent looking at makeup tutorials, researching skincare techniques, and reading books on self-love and grooming. I am tired and I have done my best-- but apparently this isn't enough.

I'm so sick of normies spouting bullshit like how ugly people don't exist. That is not true and EVERYONE knows it's not true. Ugly people are treated worse, bullied in school, and ostracized for nothing more than what we were unfortunately born with. But no, apparently it's just because I don't groom myself that I'm ugly. That my haircut isn't flattering, or that I probably don't know how to take care of myself. That I don't wear makeup, and that apparently makeup is supposed to have these amazing transformative properties when in reality the vast majority of OMG TRANSFORMATION MAKEUP involves a Stacy with bad skin.

Throughout my life, I have been treating like garbage for how I've looked. I tried to wear makeup and a cute halter top in high school and a guy gave me a disgusted look and told me I looked hideous to my face. People have asked me out on fake dates, dared their friends to ask me out, and treated me as the butt of jokes when I did absolutely nothing but dare to be who I was born as. Then they'll turn their backs and claim that I wasn't "trying hard enough", when really I have tried so hard just to have my self-esteem crushed even more by people who think ugly people aren't worthy of love, dignity, and respect.

(uglykoreangirl)
Yep. People are full of shit. "yOu juSt NeEd tO bE cOnFiDeNttTTTT", "THerE iS NO sUcH tHiNG aS UniVersaLly bEaUtiFuL PeoPle, iT's cOmpLetelY SubjeCtivE". I once made a comment on another subreddit on how much tougher life gets when you're ugly, and people went ballistic with the downvotes. Because NO ONE CARE'S ABOUT YOUR LOOK IT'S ALL ABOUT YOUR PERSONALITYYYYYY. Someone, who got a ton of upvotes, even said that working out made people sexy because of their motivation, not because a fit body is attractive. Sigh.

I'm sorry you've experienced what you have. And I know just how frustrating it is to not be taken seriously when you try to tell others how you're constantly treated like a second-class citizen, or flat out just gets ignored. It's always "you're just imagining things / have you tried being more/less outgoing? / I know a great Youtuber who... / maybe you should smile more!" or some other stupid clichées that I highly doubt they themself believe.

But hey, at least you're saving up for surgery! And next summer isn't that far away. I really wish you the best and that you'll find happiness.

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