[When asked: "So if the wife tells her husband that she doesn't want to have sex, and he forces her to (i.e., rapes her), then she is the sinner, not he?"]
God does tell us to rejoice in our spouse's body, and taking that away from the other is not really compromising. And for us traditionalists, there is that whole, obey your husband part of the vows. ::wink wink::
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In the past dozen years, I have been involved in no less than 30 weddings. Students, relatives, friends, children of friends, colleagues, you name it. Every single one of them took place in a church with traditional ceremonies.single one of them included the word "obey" anywhere in the vows. Several of them had the word "respect," but that one was in both sets of vows, not just the wife's.
I am very, very tired of fundie Christian asshats who think that women are secondary to men.
Traditionalist? No, buddy, around here we call that "fundamentalist," and it's usually not something to take as a compliment.
Brilliant. That's the same kind of logic used to justify... well, a lot of things. Any form of rape, any form of murder, the "They deserve it" or "They had it coming" defense isn't exactly... well, good in both the logical and ethical senses of the word.
Another word for the 'Fundie Word Re-definition Project', "Rejoice" Verb; to express power coupled with desire; to force someone into said activity; to claim ownership; to show how "big" of a "man" you really are; to have the assumed justification for a selfish act based on faulty "deed of ownership"; see also rape, assault, criminal acts.image
Well Sandman, then they obviously didn't marry in the same church as a cousin of mine. During her wedding we heard things like "The man is the head of the family" and some other "fun" stuff come by. I still can't see why they would want to go to that fundamentalist church...(This doesn't mean they are frothing at the mouth or something, just that they are a bit left behindin the times)
Why doesn't he just say he wants a d/s relationship? It's a fairly pervy kink he seems to have, but, hey, if he can find someone who wants to go along with it....
Sorry, but as far as I am concerned, WOMEN ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE SLAVES TO THEIR HUSBAND. And sex is not a favour, it´s reciprocal. If she refuses and doesn´t want to have sex altogether..........IT´S A SIN.
umm kids? Y'all do realize that sgrimsley is a woman, right? A 23-yr-old woman, she is.
Frankly, I don't understand what the problem is. If your significant other is denying you sex, there's a reason. Find out that reason. If there's stress, or if they feel unattractive, see what you can do to rectify the situation, and sex will once again flow freely. If, of course, you're just bad at it, then the problem is you.
Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not servitude of one to the other. Drag your backwards book and ethics into the 21st century and I might bother reading it again.
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