It is indeed very encouraging that there are some young people, albeit only a very small few of them (and one that is in fact still a ‘child’ according to feminist law), who perceive all of this mindless paedohysteria, the way everyone else should see it: as the totally stupid, unnecessary and society destroying dominant narrative that it is; but above all, are courageous enough to speak out against it
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Yeah - there's no substitute for their courage in supporting the predations of older men against prepubescent girls (who lack adult experience or even fully developed brains).
In-fucking-credible. Maybe our species does deserve the horror we're preparing to unleash on ourselves.
When I was 15, I thought I was ready for sex. Being told I wasn't ready only led to my desire to prove everyone wrong. Over the next few years, I went out and set up dating profiles on some really sketchy sites. By the time I was 17 I had sent nude pictures of myself to strange men over the internet, I'd cybered with some 40 year old guy across the country, and I was getting into fetish stuff because I thought it was the way to prove that I was a competent independent adult. Shortly after I turned 18 (I didn't want to get anyone in trouble, even though I thought I had been ready for years) I made a decision to meet a guy and sleep with him, along with engaging in some seriously questionable BDSM behavior. It was painful, I didn't enjoy it, he physically assaulted me under the guise of BDSM, and he pulled a gun on me to scare me into admitting that I had made a dumb decision in meeting him and that I was very lucky he was a 'good guy' and not a creepy psycho. (Note to men: pulling a gun on a scared young woman is not a way to assure her of your sanity or morality).
I wasn't ready. I wasn't ready even after meeting my boyfriend that same year. It took us about 6 years of on and off dating before I slept with him, because I learned from my experiences. Being ready for sex means being fully informed of all the consequences, being able to be safe (whether that's with birth control, safe words, having somebody know where you are, having a set time to call a trusted friend to make sure you're okay), being emotionally ready, and being able to handle it going wrong.
Virginity is a shitty idea, but there's something to be said for innocence. Children and teenagers are, as a whole, just not able to meet the requirements for sexual readiness. I'd argue that some rare teenagers who have had extreme circumstances in their lives forcing them to be extra mature and grow up quickly MIGHT be ready. But there's no way of guaranteeing, which is why there has to be an age of consent. It isn't hurting the prepared ones to wait a little longer. I wish I had.
You'll find that there's an extremely good reason why in adverts for credit cards & mortgages, you'll see the words 'Over 18s Only' and 'Subject to Status'.
Maturity. It's not just a financial thing.
Confused?
So were we! You can find all of this, and more, on Fundies Say the Darndest Things!
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